If she is and has gone off of them, or if the dosage isn't right, it can result in horrible fits of rage that come up suddenly and disappear as quickly as they begin. I speak from experience here. My family and I suffered a great deal before I got the balance right on the drugs.

Same here. But if it isn't the drugs, or if she's unwilling to take them or do counseling-- or if she is doing those things and is still this beastly-- then you need to get out.

If you want kids, just think of them growing up with "Dee" as a mother, or learning that that's how mommies and daddies treat each other-- your son learning to be a doormat and your daughter a demanding shrew. Isn't pretty, is it? You're working hard, you've served your country, you're in school-- you deserve better. Get out.

It says in the letter he's working 30 hours/week, which, when you factor in school time, means he's working as much as someone with a full-time job, maybe more. Now of course, he could be lying or exaggerating, but all we have to go on are his words-- it's the nature of the beast.

Of course the Republicans are complaining about a lack of information.

It's a great opportunity to talk about how global climate change is change, not like turning the heat up in your oven.

So adultery is one, and abandonment is a second. I wish there were a third in the Scripture. Having been involved as a pastor in situations of abuse there’s something in me that wishes there was a Bible verse that says if they abuse you in this and such kind of way then you can leave them.

That sounds simply horrifying, to me.

Isn't it odd that 35 years ago, when I was in grade school, every kid in my class could eat everything? The cafeteria served whatever it wanted, teachers gave out snacks that contained nuts or milk or gluten or whatever, and yet no one in my class fell on the floor and stopped breathing. Not once in 12 years.

And two of my co-workers are over 50 and have significant peanut allergies, and carry Epipens.

As others have said, the real problem is we don't know how allergies develop, which makes them hard to treat and nigh-impossible to prevent.

BTW, I have a friend who can only use her dryer when her husband is out of the house. That's the way she avoids the conflict.

Read this, LW. Is this what you want your life to be like twenty years from now? Is this what you want your children-- presuming you want them-- to grow up?

Is this what you'd want your daughter to be doing to avoid 'enraging' her future husband?

The Waldman article about loving the husband more than the kids sounds innocuous enough until you read it. Then you realize that Michael Chabon is the Sun that Waldman's Earth circles around, and the kids are at best moons, or maybe tiny asteroids. It wasn't just the preference, it was the degree of preference (and apparent obsession with the spouse).

My first reaction was to say 'fuck you,' but then I decided, oh, hell, no kids, only together four years, not worth the effort.

Others have said it, I think, better than me: to compare the love of your spouse to the love of your child is like comparing the love of chocolate with the love of sex. They're both dandy, desirable, wonderful, but they are not remotely the same, at least to me, and to attempt to quantify them is like a six year old's trying to decide who their very best BFF is.

I don't agree with those telling you to "get your brother out." It may be the best and ultimate solution, but what he needs right now is therapy to help him deal with the environment in which he finds himself. Ripping him loose from everything he knows is only going to worsen his situation. Remember how important your friends were to you in high school?

Are they the same ones who are beating him up? Having said that, he's old enough that you can talk to him and try to figure out what will really benefit him most. It sounds like things are spiraling out of control quickly, though, LR: I wouldn't wait if I were you.

I think part of it is how smart and generous Brad Kessler seems to be. So many people 'move to the country to raise goats' or something similar and think they can make huge profits, they're smarter than the locals, etc. Kessler seems to be of the rarer breed who realize how lucky they are to snap up that big house and put animals on it and still be able to pay bills.

(I live in Vermont myself. When I daydream, it's usually about Manhattan. Animals are too much damn work!)

She always thought he was such a nice boy.

Thanks, Jennifer. And you don't sound like a donkey at all.

It might be nice if the good doctor/author had gone to more than just a single attorney for a legal opinion on this matter.

Not really-- it's not a point of controversy, the law's not ambiguous at all. You don't need to ask more than one botanist why grass is green.

I'm not even a little person. It's demeaning, it's hurtful, and it's now how the people themselves want to be treated. It's not like there's some wonderful cultural cachet in 'midget' that can't be expressed any other way. Good lord.