Letters to the Editor
kansasgirl
Published Letters: 100 Editor's Choice: 14
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Online dating
[Read the article: I'm embarrassed to admit I met my guy online]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Your problems with meeting your guy online are your own insecurities. I would bet that 99% of any weird reaction you get from people is because they're picking up on it.
I date online. One of the big deal breakers for me in a guy's profile? The ones who say things like "let's pretend we met somewhere else." Somebody who's too insecure to say we met online isn't the guy for me. Think about it....if you think that using an online site says something negative about you, it stands to reason you think it's says something negative about your guy for using it too. Not only do you need to get over it, you need to get over it before your guy figures out you're embarassed about it - because it's just a short step from being embarassed about him.
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inappropriate dress
[Read the article: Shocker: Angela Merkel has boobs!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Yes, she's a woman. Yes, she has cleavage. But I think it's inappropriate to wear something with a plunging neckline to a business event unless you're a movie star, model or hooker. And let's face it, if you're a politician, every event is a business event. I wouldn't dare wear something so revealing to one of my business outings, even if it were an evening event, and my company is by no means conservative.
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Politicians to the list
[Read the article: Shocker: Angela Merkel has boobs!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]@Chris W - I don't know if you've looked at a map lately, but Kansas is part of the U.S. whether you like it or not. If you ever visit there you'll find some of the kindest, friendliest people in the country.
However I live in LA now and work in the entertainment industry. I also work out at the same gym that many a porn star does, so I'm used to seeing considerable cleavage (not much of it's real, but it's out there for all the world to see).
I still think the plunging neckline was inappropriate. You read any advice column or book on women's dress in the workplace, and they'll all tell you that cleavage is a don't, right up there with flip-flops, tank tops and mini skirts. If I'm going to an event where I know I will see and be seen by business associates, I wear something work-appropriate. If I'm out on my own time with my friends and want to dress sexy, I do. Since I'm not a world political figure, I don't have to worry about being photographed in what I'm wearing.
I wouldn't consider Carla Bruni a politican, just the wife of one.
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Your siblings are right
[Read the article: I quit being a musician because I couldn't play without drinking]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANTS! You are depressed. Antidepressants do not stop you from feeling - and if they do, you're on the wrong dose or the wrong type for you. Antidepressants, used correctly, allow you to function as a healthy human being instead of wallowing in misery, doubt and fear. The stop you from being depressed.
I too have a family history of depression (including 2 cousins who've commited suicide). I resisted antidepressants for a long time. I was convinced I just needed more therapy first, more discipline to get my act together, a better job, a boyfriend, more money, etc. One day I was at the doctor's office for something unrelated and mentioned to the nurse that I was thinking I might try antidepressants after I'd spent some time with a new therapist. "Why are you waiting?" she asked me. "Why are you being so hard on yourself?" Something resonated with me and I decided to give them drugs a shot.
Lexapro saved my life. I mean that literally. And Lexapro allowed me to climb out of my depression so instead of focusing on climbing out of my depression in therapy, I could focus on learning healthier behaviors and building self-esteem. I still have a full range of emotions - I experience joy, sadness, anger - and I'm actually more aware of my emotions now because I'm not feeling everything through the fog of depression.
I can't urge you enough to at least consider anti-depressants. My only regret is that I didn't try them years earlier, because depression ruled a good chunk of my life.