Letters to the Editor
Irina99
Published Letters: 72 Editor's Choice: 6
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How I hate Coulter
[Read the article: Ann Coulter gets what she deserves]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I don't truly loathe that many people in the public eye but I can honestly say that I loathe and detest the execreble Coulter. She is one of the most awful people alive. She just has a mean, mean spirit, a total lack of grace and kindness, and seems to possess no basic human compassion. She is just foul.
So I enjoyed very much that little smack-down. Good for Matthews for setting her up and good for Eliz. Edwards for calling her on her bullshit: she really deserves it. If she chooses to exercise her rights to free speech by being cruel and bitchy, then she most certainly should be held accountable for some of those hateful things she says. I wish this kind of thing would happen every day.
I do wish the media would just stop giving her air time. She is vile. She contributes nothing to the public discourse but soundbytes of hatred and vitriol. She is gross and disgusting and evil. I don't know how she sleeps at night, saying the things she does, it really is as if she has no heart or no conscience.
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Just chill, you're normal
[Read the article: In the midst of joy, I have dark thoughts]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Welcome to parenthood--this is what it's like. It's not for the faint of heart, and the overanxious usually suffer badly as parents.
I hate to say this, but I agree with the poster above who said "have a second child." If you can afford it (physically and emotionally) having more than one child definitely will decrease your anxiety about harm coming to your one and only. I know that sounds very utilitarian, but it really is true. I have three; it's not that they get any less precious the more you have, but you do get some relief from the diffusion of your biological imperative, your hopes and dreams, etc being focused all on one little being.
Otherwise, just accept that having these thoughts is normal and try to push them from your mind, don't dwell on them. Yes, being a parent is one of the greatest experiences of your life, if not the greatest, but it is also the hardest. Worrying is normal. Watching the news, hearing about bad things happening to children, hearing about someone else's child being seriously ill or injured or god forbid the worst to me, which is kidnapped....just don't dwell. You have to get on with things. Just let the dark thoughts skitter through and leave; don't sit and spin out fantasies.
All parents (well, most that I know) go through this, and yes, it never goes away...my kids are still young but I hear that all the time. It doesn't get any easier if your child is suffering at 10 or 20 or 30 or 40...so just get used to this feeling and try not to let it dominate you. Try to enjoy your child and accept the pain with the pleasure.
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Worth it
[Read the article: Death strip]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I recently read this entire series and the ending did pay off. I really enjoyed the story and the suspense, particularly when it dwelled on the moral implications of action and inaction.
The art is beautiful, dark and admirably detailed, some of the most realistically drawn manga I've ever seen. The character designs are also lovely (I particularly appreciated the intentionally androgynous Mello).
I recommend "Death Note" to those new to manga who are interested in checking out the genre; this series is rooted more in the "real world" than the more popular action manga (like "Naruto" or "Fullmetal Alchemist") which those unfamiliar with manga may find off-putting. (but they are great too!)
Give Death Note a try. It's addictive!
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Isn't it crazy....
[Read the article: I was betrayed by people I trusted]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Isn't it crazy how most people can remember every unkind thing ever said or done to them but it's so hard to recall the nice things? LW, still feeling the pain of this betrayal a mere twelve months later is normal. Most people twice or three times your age can recall every word of some high school taunt. My 70-year-old father just recently retold (for the millionth time) of some humiliating experience with a teacher somwhere around 1949. I have been complimented on my looks countless times, but it's the few times somebody in junior high said something mean that resonate in my head, word for word, to this day. I guess we are all that way. That's just being a sensitive person. Don't see that as a negative!
Like others have assured you, those peoples' voices will fade with time, you just have to try not to think about it too often, reject what you can and work on what you can't. Look, yes, there is always a grain of truth in even the meanest taunts, even if the "truth" is only that somehow you were naive enough to trust these vipers and they punished you for it.
If I had a dime for every time some of my beautiful friends told me that they thought they were ugly...I hope you learn to see yourself as beautiful, as most people are in their own ways.
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Best Cary answer ever
[Read the article: Should strip-club bachelor parties be men-only?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This is one of my favorite Cary columns ever: thank you, Cary, for calling out the bullshit. Bachelor and bachelorette parties are total social dross. Thank you for saying it!!
LW, honey, take it from this 10-years-married wifey: that woman who gets the privilege of being the only girl at the bachelor party? LAME. You know what? If she's the type of girl who even wants to go to a strip club with the guys, she's never going to get married herself (then again, maybe she doesn't want to--no judgements), because most men wouldn't want to marry a girl who behaves like that. Yeah, yeah, I know there are exceptions....anyway, LW, forget about her and forget about that stupid lame bachelor party. It's going to be disappointing, and gross, and anticlimactic, and your husband will probably pretend to enjoy it more than he actually will...and, yeah, forget about it.