Letters to the Editor
fcabrini
Published Letters: 17 Editor's Choice: 2
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Maybe I am missing something here
[Read the article: Apparently I'm a bisexual mom]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]... but would you be writing if your feelings were for another man? If your feelings were for a fellow colleague of the opposite sex, you would probably be going through what many, many other married heterosexual people go through (and I would think that gay men and women in committed relationships probably experience the same temptations)
And my answer to them is my answer to you - you are married, therefore you have made a commitment. There are no loopholes to commitment.
I do sincerely sympathize with you, I really do. But this is one of the challenges you will need to face as a married person. I would be telling you this regardless of your orientation.
Good luck! I wish you strength and I wish you happiness!
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Just Quit!
[Read the article: My boss says I'm a lesbian but I'm not!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Maybe you want to be nice and you don't want to make a big thing about it. But your boss is harrassing and bullying you.
That shows no respect for you as an individual. As a person.
Screw people like that. And if they call you a homophobe, say "I am not a homophobe; I am an idiot-phobe and you are an idiot"
Idiots and bullies come in all shapes and sizes, colors, creeds and orientations.
Save your respect for someone who deserves it. And save yourself from that caustic environment.
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Well, I think it's nice
[Read the article: Train-zilla ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Different maybe, but it definitely makes for a really nice picture, especially the way it weaves around the sunflowers and how it covers some of the other ones.
Who knows, maybe they did make donations after the wedding.
And as for the crazy spending, well, people in the wedding business definitely jack up their prices - complete highway robbery there.
But also, a lot of people are probably thinking, here is one chance for us to go all out, to try to make "our day" really special - if there is a time NOT to penny pinch, it would be for one's wedding day, no?
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I am so very sorry for your loss
[Read the article: After my husband died of cancer I found he'd been cheating]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I am deeply, truly sorry for your loss. I am also very sorry that you were betrayed. I do not know why people do the things that they do.
Please be good to yourself and take care of yourself. Think of all the people who care about you and who are sending you their most sympathetic and healing vibes. Many of us, the faceless Salon letter-writers, also send you our very best.
Be good to yourself. Be good to your beautiful children. You will heal. I promise you that. You will heal.
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Why does he think the world revolves around him?
[Read the article: Some drunken chick is texting my husband while we're sleeping]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Hmmm... first he says he hung around his co-worker in order to figure out if YOU were the one for him... this is weird. Too weird. Like eating hot-dogs everyday for a year to see if you like hamburgers.
Then he dismisses your feelings as if you were a complete fool. Manipulative. Trying to make you feel foolish.
You are not foolish for having feelings. Repeat. You are NOT foolish for having feelings. Your feelings deserve respect. Repeat. Your feelings deserve RESPECT.
I do not want to come to any conclusions about his fidelity, however I will say this - Do not allow your hubby demean your feelings or force you to second-guess yourself. Ever. Even if you are wrong.
Perhaps during your search across the sea as Cary so eloquently described, you should also look for ways to start respecting yourself. If you have a strong sense of self, nothing anyone can say to you will bring you down.
Regain your sense of self and a lot of things will fall into place.
Wishing you all the best and all the happiness and security you so rightly deserve.
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Internet equivalent of bicyles and boxing gloves
[Read the article: Help! I'm an Internet troll!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Great answer Cary!
So the question is, what is the Internet equivalent of bicycles or boxing gloves?
Bicycles = recreation. Find something else that is fun to do! Video games? Message boards (I am addicted to ask.metafilter.com!
Boxing gloves = control. Do you generally feel helpless to the banter of the RWing? To the hatred they spew? To hatred in general? I know i do. It makes me sad. Regain your control, whatever that is. What in life will make you feel more in control of your life? Getting in shape? Actual boxing lessons? The more control you feel, the less perhaps, you will need to worry about and respond to any of the comments you read on the Internet.
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It's your turn to clean the pool!
[Read the article: Would you please get out of my swimming pool!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]phone call ensues...
Dring Dring!
"Hello?"
"Hi cousin-in-law! Little Timmy (... or whatever your son/daughter's name is...) got an eye infection and the doc says that it is because the pool is full of bacteria. He told us that we need to clean the pool twice to three times a week. One of my neighbours who also uses the pool suggested that each of us take turns cleaning it since we all use it - isn't that a great idea? I sure think so. We each need to do it 3-4 times a month each. So for what days can I put you down?"
"Oh, you know what? I think I decided that I no longer want to swim in your pool!"