First of all, my condolences to you on the loss of your fiancé. This must have been a terrible thing for you.

Now, lest people accuse me of being too harsh, let me state that I do believe that SOME people can and do change throughout life. Lots of people don't show much promise at 22, and can still decide at some point that they want to "get it together."

HOWEVER, I also believe that many 22-year-old boys are too young for many 22-year-old girls, let alone most 28-year-old girls.

A lot of 22-year-old boys can be like 16-year-olds, only with more money and legal independence. A lot of 28 year old girls have (hopefully) moved on from a lot of adolscent stuff.

I don't think many 22-year-old boys would ever be able to "catch up" with a woman 6 years older—I'm not saying it never happens, it just seems to me that your particular relationship will always be out of sync, at most stages of your lives. (When he's 28 you'll be 34 . . . etc. etc.) The gap might close a bit over time, but remember that so much growing and changing happens in peoples 20s and 30s-when he gets around to age 28, you BOTH may again have changed into people neither of you recognize.

In the interest of full disclosure, I'll mention that I am 10 years younger than my husband, and it works for us, but I realize that some people would find that too much of an age difference in the other direction. To each their own.

Honestly LW, it doesn't sound like you and your boyfriend have much in common. End it gracefully, if that is possible, and move on to someone who is a better match for you.

I wish you the best.

. . . the bed-wetting might be a hint that there is a problem.

The best advice I ever read was in a book written by an artist by the name of Alex Grey.

His 4 year old daughter included this gem:

"How to Be a Great Artist"

1. Do Your Best

2. Be Yourself

3. Never Give Up

I think that just about covers it.

That was very sweet of you to say.

. . . the only purpose of work is so we can live. We don't live to work.

EVERYBODY needs something in their life that gives them joy. Work is what we do to create circumstances that allow that to happen. Nothing else has any meaning unless your life has joy.

And if work/commuting to work interferes with the important things in life: like family, friends, eating good meals together, laughing, making music, making art, enjoying your home, developing as a person . . . then I think it's time to find other work.

Anything else is just wasting your life as a slave. And It's all over in the blink of an eye.