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I scuba dive, and I am female. If you wear larger than a 10 womens, you have to custom order your dive suit. Basically a woman taller than 5'6'' and 130 pds would probably need to order her suit , ie not fat, but not petite - but a guy on his way to 300 pounds and fat , can get a off the shelf suit without paying the extra for a custom order.
Look at suits for work, men's warehouse, it doesn't matter how tall or short/fat or skinny he can get a suit for work. For women if you are not the right height and weight finding proper work cloths is a nightmare. So the whole bullshit about the market not being able to have the varity is bull, or men would have the same problem.
Being tall or short is almost as bad as over weight - when it comes to finding women's clothing, something guys don't go through. And I don't understand how the fashion industry thinks this model of business is profitable long term.
We are currently looking for a house to buy, and are going on endless open houses and you know what we see in every house we go to? No books, not one - but tv's in every bedroom.
There is your problem, turn off your tv's and make your kids read books. Kids who don't read will not turn around and become scientist in college. Reading takes practice, and the patience to get through a non-fiction work on science will not be learned from short attention spans, ipods and tv's
As for teachers in high school unable to make it interesting in the hard sciences -- anyone qualified to teach a hard science at the high school level can get a job for 3x if not more money than any teacher is going to be paid - because unlike social studies they are a valuable skill set that leads to high paying jobs, since so few people can do them. Mostly because most folks won't put in the effort-- not when they can watch reality tv.
"Scientist need to get better at explaining things"
Why is the burden of explaining on a group of folks that don't even make up 1% of the population? Why don't you and everyone else take responsibility for understanding the world around you - because ignorance is not a valid excuse.
Apparently folks have been listening to the barbie doll that says math is hard -- well its not, the barriers to understanding this stuff is all in your own mind if you are normal intelligence, but learning it might make you uncomfortable, question your beliefs , and force you to think vs memorize -- and most people simply don't want to, they want someone else to hand it to them "explained" on a plate so they don't have to make the effort.
I am married, with kids - and I work more than full time, and do the majority of the house work, and then the kid things, and on the rare times that I get a business trip - I don't miss them either - a whole week of no house work, praise the lord, a whole week of no mommy I waited til the last minute to tell you, but I need...a whole week of not being on call to everyone else - business travel for a woman is liberating, yes I am busy more than my normal work day, but in the evenings I can read and sleep - rejoice!!!
Don't get me wrong I love my family, have been married 10 years, but even vacations with my family are work and stressful, because mom makes it happen - but business travel alone - cool.
Of course the price is paid when you come home to a house that was picked up last minute, and the kids have been eating pizza all week, and are wired. But by then, its all cool - I I love them and miss them so much.
So if your wife doesn't miss you, ask yourself - who does the most house work? Have you kept it up while she is gone? Are you missing all those little things she does for you, and what do you do for her? She needed a vacation, and a work trip for a women is so much less stress than normal life, it works like a vacation. From my male co-workers I hear the opposite, they don't like to travel, and they miss all the things done for them. (But all the women in the office agree with me) A business trips makes my 80 hour week go down to 50 - because all the home stuff is gone.
Susan Brownmiller's book Against Our Will takes about American Troops in Asia, the wars in Bosnia with Rape and torture camps just for Muslim women.... the routine rapes in African countries under going civil unrest.
Men with guns, any men with guns and uniforms pretty much means wide scale rape - from the Roman Empire on.. nothing new under the sun. In every war more civilian's die than soldiers - but you only hear about the soldiers if you are their side of a conflict -- ie if you don't know how many civilians have died in Iraq, you are caring on the same proud tradition. And considering how bad the raping of fellow soldiers is in the US military, can you honestly think nothing is going on with the civilian population?