Put yourself in the wife's place -- would you want to be lied to?

Would you like to know if your husband was sleeping around? -- as a former wife of a cheater that everyone knew about, the humiliation of being the last to know is the one thing I could never forgive. And the friends who all knew -- are no longer friends.

It amazes me how many people think it is ok for a man to continue to lie to the women in his life, to spare them. How paternalistic, is she a child? Mentally defective? How dare you decide it is ok to keep such important information from her.

May your partners find out what creeps you are and avoid you like the plagues you are -- since you think it is ok to lie to people.

It was only a month or two ago that the story about -- Indian doctors kidnapping poor men, stealing their kidney's and let them loose with out enough medical care. They finally caught the doctors. (oh, yes and they were selling the organ's black market to wealthy westerns, who probably pretend as much ignorance of the source and how the organs are gotten, as these would be parents -- no , no its great , its more money then they'd see in 3 years, they volunteered, my desire for organ/baby is not immoral!!!)

In a country were poor women are property, don't get to keep their own money -- do you honestly think it isn't their husbands or parents selling their wombs for them???? How stupid can you be - the reason this is going on in a third world country, is because it is unregulated, and highly unlikely that the decision to rent her womb out, is actually in the hands of the women whose womb you are renting. In a country were women control their own bodies, you don't see alot of women volunteering for this.. imagine that.

One this is a low rate, in countries with less freedoms for women have higher rates -- think Africa, South America, Middle East. Education, and freedom for women have an impact on rates.

The NPR story, a caller asked what was the rate for boys in the same age group? The science reporter (NPR usually has its shows on website - it was on the air today) said that there are not many studies on boys, because there are few impacts to them. But usually much lower, because the girls were having sex with men - not boys their own age.

Now I've seen that story before, in studies of teen pregnancies -- its usually not teen boys the same age getting the girls pregnant, but older men.

So perhaps the high rate of infection in the US is not due to sex alone, but that the girls are not having sex with their own age group -- but being exposed to the STD rates of older men? After all if the boy was a virgin too - the only risk would be pregnancy. (which is bad enough)

Part of sex education should be teaching girls that sex with older men is really part of the problem, that men in 20 & 30s having sex with a teenager, have something wrong with them, and they don't love them. But that might be a hard message to get across.

On several articles we've been over it -- everyone seems to believe that legalizing it will make the problems associated with the industry go away.

But it is legal in some places -- read the UN human trafficking reports and you know what conclusions they come to? Making it legal makes it worse, and harder to control the worse effects of prostitution.

Netherlands -- its legal -- but there are not enough women who want to be in business, so the Russian mafia solved the supply and demand issue, they kidnap young women from the Eastern European counties and sell them into the trade. These women and children doesn't speak the local language , scared out of their minds. Now human trafficking is a problem in all of Europe -- but in the Netherlands it is worse, because the legal hides the illegal, and makes it hard to make a case, and arrest the traffickers.

Also like Nevada - Thailand, Netherlands -- places around areas were it is legal, sexual violence against all women increases. Since some women are legal sexually objects -- it lowers all women’s status, and endangers them.

Experts who deal with the crimes around prostitution like human trafficking, highly recommend not legalizing it -- not because they really care if a few high end (what a really small percent of the industry) feel their rights are put upon, because legalize it endangers all women in the area, and to prevent trafficking -- which for those unclear on the concept, is kidnapping, beating, raping, and selling of a human being, usually a minor ... is bad for everyone, including women who would never work in the industry.

According to the UN - human trafficking is the no 3 crime after drugs, and gun smuggling, and is posed to take the number two spot. Legalize prostitution in more areas, will guarantee its jump up the list.