Is the death rate from being a waitress as high as death from pregnancy? No

Is the medical side effects as bad? No

Does working as a waitress, or factory work - possibly leave you infertile? No

Pregnancy is not like a job. Where after nine months of having a child living inside of you -- you have to give away never to see again. Think of the emotional toll. Women in the US who agreed to carry children for others, have had legal cases because they change their minds. Some women change their minds about giving up a kid for adoption -- because the emotion toll is to high.

The real appeal of going to India for these women, instead of finding a woman to carry your kid in a first world country is no matter how these Indian women feel or want, when the time comes the child will be taken from them. No matter how insane it makes them, no matter how much grief. What job does that to you?

This is not like a job, it is more like having your kidney removed because your family wanted the money and you don't get a choice in the matter. It like your father selling your body parts, and under going invasive medical procedures for nine months, have nasty strangers tell you how to eat, and behave for nine months -- take your child from you and leave with out ever thinking of you again. You are not a human being, but a machine with a womb.

It is nasty and immoral,, but no one wants to confront the wealthy white older women who are in such an emotional state, they don't care who they hurt to get a kid, and would justify any behavior.

"on the positive side, Indian women are doing this voluntarily to earn $5400 in 9 months"

--- There is a reason that eggs are not for sale legally, with the money angle, the prospect that it is not voluntarily becomes a real issue. In a country with little rights for lower caste women, where they are the property of their families - what idiot really believes that these women are really voluntarily? That they have a choice? These are not American or British women, who if their families tried to force them to do this, so the family could get 5,000 dollars (which is a large amount of money there) could go to the police or say no.

The reason infertility treatment is immoral, is not because of a happy couples desire to have children, it is that at the moment it involves a 3rd party, they are putting someone else in danger. The drugs used to ovulate women to get the eggs, are dangerous, have serious side affects, people forget pregnancy can kill you, or make you infertial.

Basically you have an older wealthier women buying the fertility of a younger poorer women, who has a good chance of permentant medical side effects due to her part - either as an egg donor or as the vessel who carries the kid. It involves money, and women in poor positions of power - it is corrupt as hell, and ripe for abuse. If your infertility treatments don't involve anyone else - ie its your own eggs, you are being implanted with power to you... but once the third person is brought in it is immoral, and no amount of self justification changes that ---- you don't know, and can never know if she really wants to be pregnant for 5000$ , really think about it, what sane person wants to be pregnant with a baby that is not yours, and you can't keep for any amount of money, unless there are other pressures, or mental illness involved. And taking advantage of the other pressures (extreme poverty, forced by family, ...) for your own needs, is the actions of people you hope would never be parents - since it is so immoral. Or the actions of people who lie to themselves because they are so desperate for a child, they would do anything - even rob a young stranger of her medical health and future fertility for her own family.

Also in some of these areas, who believes these women will control the money, after they have the baby, they probably give the money to their mother-in-law, husband or father, and get rented out again. If you are in a culture were you are the property of your family, who can honestly say these women volunteer. Its like the woman who sold her kids to the sexual predatory -- would you say the kids were voluntary??? Voluntary means they have the ability to say no -- there is no evidence in these poor India village, that women have the ability to say no.

It is common policy to not allow - couples to (married or otherwise ) work in the same company -- insurance and banks frequently band that -- because if folks are in two departments, the ability to commit fraud is a hell of lot easier. One in the procurement department orders from a fake vendor, the other spouse approves the check cutting....

Companies don't generally like couples in IT departments either -- since two folks have more access to sensitive machines. What if one of the people in the couple is an auditor??

Companies don't like couples, they are thinking about financial crimes. They are thinking of future lawsuits if things go bad.

I agree, if work is the only place you have to meet people -- GET A LIFE. Work is not your life -- specifically if you are a desk jockey. And if you do marry your office mate, expect one you to have to go look for a job.