If they are not married, they are not her inlaws, and they

are not family, why should she want to spend time with them?

And how upperclass, I have a friend who is convencied she is never in financial woes, but she is, always spending money she doesn't have - because she absolutely have to do something - like visit family. No, if you don't have money, you don't go. And the snobby comments that it is just a waitress job, alot of people live on those jobs, just not the upper middle class Salon readers. It looks bad to lose a job that you haven't been at for 18 months, and it will be on your employeement record, when looking for jobs in the future, and you will always have to explain the short duration of the job.

Most likely she is a wuss, and never told him/her any of these things up front, but she should.

"And look what it has done to us...

...STD's, the deterioration of the family, so-called alternate "families," and the slaughter of 4,000 babies per day in the atrocity which is the abortion holocaust."

In our abstinence culture we have a higher abortion and diease rate than any other first world culture. And the reason was just talked about in a broadsheet article not that long ago - std's spread faster in traditional cultures were there is a great disparity in the ability of the different genders to control their own sexuallity , and were sex is seen as something wrong. It may amaze you, but the std rate per population is lowest in W. Europe with their open views of sexuality, and lack of restraints on women, and no abstinece only training in sight, and access to abortion and birth control a non-issue in most of those countries.

In a county like the US that doesn't provide its citizens with birth control (no national health plan), makes abortions difficult, feels that sex is shameful, and teaches abstinence, what do we get? The highest teen pregnancy rate in the first world countries, the highest abortion rate, and the highest std rate. If we were more open about sex, and taught birthcontrol, and provided it - and we didn't go on about women being either virgins or sluts, our pregnancy rates, abortion rates, and std rates would all go down.

Teaching sex is a sin, teaching that abstinence works, and that virgity is important, only makes things worse. Which is really what drives the religious right mad, the fact that they are completely wrong.

If you really wanted to decrease abortions, decrease std's you'd be fighting the Abstinence movement tooth and nail, and trying to teach a real sex ed class, you'd make birthcontrol and abortions easy to get. Doing everything possible to remove the double standard in sex between men and women. But you don't really want to decrease abortions or control std's you want to punish people for having sex.