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The answer to lowering abortions, is not to offer money to go through the pregnancy. Its to help folks not get pregnant in the first place..
Having a baby can kill you - abortions don't
Having a baby can cause permanent conditions that lower your standard of living for life, abortions that are done right - won't.
Having a baby, can make impossible to have one later, unless you get an infection an abortion won't.
Having a baby, can cost more than 1000$ out of pocket with insurance on the wrong plan.
If you are working, you will lose more than 1000$ in wages, because maternity leave is not paid, or time off for a difficult pregnancy, and most people don't work til they drop the kid.
It will be hard to go to school if you suffer morning sickness all 10 months (I don't know where that 9 months crap comes from) - some folks actually lose weight during pregnancy because they can't keep it down.
Pregnancy puts you on an emotional rollcoaster - as the hormones make you feel worse than your top ten PMS cycles put together. And if you don't have a wonderful supporting partner to help you though -- its hell.
If you are not going to keep the kid, and 100% sure that you want the kid no matter what, defects, or issue that make it unlike that folks will want to adopt, medical problems, whatever.... then DON"T do it -- they are lying to you, pregnancy is not just a few months of discomfort.
This is from a woman who actually had two healthy, beautiful, planned girls with a loving partner. But was horribly sick the entire pregency from day one , until it ended and my 9 pound + babies - one delivery was more than 24 hours, so can you handle being in pain for 24 hours straight, with no sleep? This with an epidermal - its called back labor, and no drug will make it ok
No sane person would have a kid for 1000$ - do you want to adopt from mentally defective people? Who think having a baby for 1000 is a good ideal, or do you want a kid who will have a positive IQ?
My understanding was that divorce was down, because folks couldn't afford it -- not enough money for two house holds.
Sounds like living hell to me.
The difference between sperm donations, and eggs, is the egg donation has a chance of doing permant harm to the donor. This is an unregulated industry with no uniform reporting requirements, so if you want to look up the number of women adversely harmed by the egg extraction process, you can't get the numbers.
Every investigation I'd seen into fertility clinics, said they lied about their success rates, and rarely if ever kept follow up information on egg donors who are not also clients. So if a 20 year old donates eggs, then later gets vaginal bleeding and has to have her uterus removed - causing her to be sterile - the fertility clinic will not have this fact in their records. So how would you get the data?
The drugs used for egg extract are not FDA approved for this use, if this was any other medical procedure so wide spread, the Feds would jump in and say you can't use possibly life threatening drugs off label - but they are afraid of the older , wealthier and white clients who use this getting into an uproar. This practice has been around for more than 15 years now, and the industry could have done the drug test by now, and made it onlabel - but varies studies in the American Medical Journals imply the drugs might not be found safe enough, if so there would be no approval, and it would be specifically ordered by the FDA that it couldn't be used for this purpose, and that is why an extremely wealth industry hasn't done the drug studies, and taken the risk the feds could order them to stop.
One of the reasons you don't pay for kidneys, because donating them is a real health risk to the donor, who needs to be donating for reasons other than money. The donor also needs full discloser of the risk. You shouldn't pay for eggs, because donating them can cause real health risk to the donor, and because the industry doesn't track past results, it can't honestly tell the donor their odds.
http://www.cbc.ca/canada/calgary/story/2007/04/30/eggs.html
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2000/may/19/suzannegoldenberg
http://hcrenewal.blogspot.com/2007/03/strange-contracting-at-uci.html
http://niemanwatchdog.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=about.Panel%20Discussion:%20Nonprofit%20Organizations%20May%2099 (about half way down)
And articles from the American Medical Journal have from time to time published articles of doctors at hospitals stealing eggs from women with out consent or their knowledge.
The Ripping happens naturally, and may only produce an egg or two without the injections, but if the eggs are worth 10,000 a pop on the market, then yes women’s life’s might be endangered.