There is only one problem with your theory. None of the 90% of the male population willing to work this hard for women would be interested in sex with men. Why should they work for something if they can get something that is in any way equivalent for free.

For instance when women get everything their own way it is not because they like to be in charge it is because their way is the only sane/reasonable/equal/decent way for things to be. One of the problems though with implementing this change in definition is that men have to prove themselves superior in order to attract women and women don't so this leads to a general tendency to want to be seen as on top.

and neither is ignoring biology.

Yes people need people but women, in the absence of any practical benefit from men, are more willing/able to get their needs met by other women/non sexual relationships. The feminine and feminist interpretation is that this proves womens' objective superiority the other alternative is that men are wired differently than women.

elections don't matter. This is the right wing mentality and the rest of the country needs to understand it and deal with it. We've been kissing their and ass and trying to meet them halfway, without any reciprocation, obviously, for far to long and we need to stop.

It's really simple and it is completely unreasonable of you to keep denying it: the percentage of men who VOLUNTARILY give up with some reasonable degree of comfort is very tiny. The percentage of women who VOLUNTARILY give up and/or are reasonably comfortable doing so it quite large. You know it is true, so stop it. Who has it "harder" in a broader sense, who can say, not me.

and it seems that a lot of women do.

It isn't rare

maybe they are more aware than we sometimes give them credit for.

because it NEEDS to be or whether it is just the way she likes it. Paying for it may NEVER have mad sense. You also need to consider how many household expenses, upgrades, renovations, etc are really for the household or are really just entertainment for the wife (obviously in fairness the same should examination be applied to the husband). "If you care do it yourself" women say this to men all the time, why can't men say it to women.

see, EVERYONE is suffering.

DON"T WASH HIS CLOTHES, then he will have to deal with it. Microwaveable food bought on sale is quite cheap too.

When we can get to it, but all the time is taken up dealing with women who refuse to be anything other continually hysterical when anything, big or small, is not EXACTLY the way they want it.

if she doesn't care if they ever have sex he can have sex by himself. If he doesn't care whether the house gets cleaned or not she can clean it herself.

but it can't be conveniently selective. We are all familiar with the feminine/feminist tendency to view any area where men don't see things the same as women are evidence of oppressive intention or defectiveness but trying to say that a 14 year old having sex with an adult means the same thing whether the 14 year old is male or female or trying to figure out some way that "choice for men" can work is equally (well maybe not QUITE equally) misguided.

is because there is a large group of people who are economically unable to function. If everyone had a decent education and we didn't import slaves from the 3rd world very few people could afford to pay someone to wipe their ass (unless it was medically necessary). Some things, like the industrial production of microwaveable food, result in a real economic gain overall but jobs that can't be done inherently more efficiently by one person than another, such as mowing the lawn, cleaning the bathroom or general housekeeping are, and should be seen as, the equivalent of some 18th century nobleman having 5 servants standing around to hand him things.

looking for for "objective proof" that your way is the one and only right way is far more emotionally appealing.

that should be

in theory maybe, or in the past, but in practice now this doesn't seem to be much of a problem; for instance I don't hear much talk by men that they are oppressed by a feminist conspiracy because women don't keep house or cook the way men want them to.

I agree this is the predominant view and the question is: Why do the majority of women in America feel they have the right to tell their husbands what to do and how to do it and feel victimized and abused when there is anything other than than complete cooperation in response while men would never dream of giving orders in this way and if they tried it the response would be "do it yourself" (at the very least).

and then tells his girlfriend about it is suffering from multiple and various deficiencies.

there wouldn't be the conflict that there is.

In my experience and that of most men I know they do it very little if at all yet they all claim to do it a lot.

I don't believe that very many men could afford to ignore it. You may be the rare exception but in almost every case we are really talking about emotional preferences.

This is the tough one alright. Everything else you can let everyone do their own/do what they care about.

how long would you have to leave it before he would complain?