Letters posted here are associated with the following Salon Premium Member:

dick dworkin

Published Letters: 3306
Editor's Choice: 5

Monday, March 24, 2008 12:15 PM

marriage isn't the issue, the parental relationship and the willingness/ability to support children is

marriage USED to be the only way to assign responsibility for children, now we have DNA. Marriage USED to legally require and legally ALLOW responsibilities/rights to another person that otherwise didn't exist. This is no longer the case (apart from pooled property). People use the term marriage when they really mean, or should mean, ability,commitment and responsibility. Maybe we, that is to say right wingers, should start talking more clearly and directly about what they really mean. Of course some of them ARE talking about what they really mean, which is they want society to have control over peoples sex lives, and "the children" are a means to an end. Dammn those evil Swedes, Norwegians, etc. thwarting Gods plan to keep people in line by failing to allow their societies to collapse when people don't get married.

Monday, March 24, 2008 12:16 PM

When all a men does is focus on sex and on being the most attractive to the most women, he becomes candy to women, who chase him in droves as he moves from one to the next, going through the pile of opportunity at leisure.

Sadly I must inform you that this is not always the case.

Monday, March 24, 2008 12:36 PM

the vice principal would chase down girls wearing open-toed shoes, demanding that their toes be covered

that happened in my high school too, only the official was male. Strangely enough he seemed to be remarkably effective in overcoming any resistance the girls had to covering their feet.

Monday, March 24, 2008 12:41 PM

but there is a reason game playing among guys is becoming a high art.

It's always been a high art, although it is true that people have more freedom now to play the game more openly.

Monday, March 24, 2008 12:55 PM

obviously because men maintain a greater interest in sex under a greater variety of circumstances than women do

what is interesting though is that while women are openly proclaiming their superiority in this area they are AT THE SAME TIME denying that it is true. Very weird.

Monday, March 24, 2008 01:02 PM
Original article: Is your vagina magic?

so I'll take him at his word (though I wondered why that would be a turn-on: seemed like his boudoir "workload" just doubled, but he's not dating twins ....)

or it would be REDUCED by half, or even by some multiple of two.

Monday, March 24, 2008 01:41 PM
Original article: Is your vagina magic?

there's WAAAAY more to it than tight or not tight

I could elaborate if you want

Monday, March 24, 2008 01:52 PM

your honesty is a start anonymous and I agree with you that women don't like jerks but there are other things to be honest about

starting with the fact that both men and women are going to have to compromise to get any of what they want and that when one side cares more and therefore has to compromise more there are emotional effects. I agree with you that changes in the social structure mean that women don't need men for practical reasons as much as they used to and women have never needed men for sexual/romantic reasons EXCLUSIVELY as much as men need women. The feminist line now is that all men have to do is do everything women want and everything will be fine. Even setting aside for the moment the fact that a lot of things women want are mutually exclusive to each other it isn't true even if it were possible for men to do that which it isn't.

Monday, March 24, 2008 02:23 PM

why not a DNA test in place of a birth certificate, automatically, for everyone

birth certificates, and for that matter marriages, have always been ultimately about doing what DNA now does better: Assign responsibility. As feminists are the first to note making people live up to those responsibilities worked very imperfectly in the past, and according to some the present.

Monday, March 24, 2008 03:05 PM

it will be interesting to see whether women are willing to compromise more when men no longer have to choose between parenthood and sex

yes they can get sterilized and yes they can use a condom but one is permanent and one ruins sex so accidents happen frequently. Once men no longer have to take the risk or go without will the dynamic change. I think it might. If women want a kid the man will REALLY have to want one to or it won't happen.

Monday, March 24, 2008 03:08 PM

So I compromise, just not in a way that gives men access to my body.

Then regarding you there is nothing for men to negotiate a compromise for.

Monday, March 24, 2008 03:14 PM

child support will get much easier to collect once all financial transactions are electronic

and when your DNA is your drivers license, Id, credit card, everything. Of course if someone has no money, that's another matter, but anything they have will be able to be efficiently gotten. Of course some people claim the system is fairly "efficient" now.

Monday, March 24, 2008 03:58 PM

it isn't male complacency that blocks male bc it's the biological difficulties and the fact that its a bad investment

since if men start women might stop so the pharms won't gain anything. If it did exist though it would change a lot, yeah some women only want babies but if men could take a pill they would have a better chance of finding this out before it was too late. No it won't solve the fundamental problem but it will give men more leverage in how they deal with it.

Monday, March 24, 2008 04:00 PM

We should just be able to go our separate ways in peace.

Women are a lot more peaceful without sex than men are, is what it comes down to.

Monday, March 24, 2008 04:12 PM

obviously you shouldn't

and you won't. Nobody has a clue. That's why so many people are falling back on "traditional value" or on fantasy and denial.

Monday, March 24, 2008 05:45 PM
Original article: An Olympic disgrace

it's idiotic to say that there is any connection between being vegan and pro-life

if someone is against eating eggs laid by "companion" chickens then yes THEY should be pro life. I have never heard of ANYONE who objects to eating eggs ON PINCIPLE though, if the egg layers were treated properly.

Monday, March 24, 2008 05:48 PM
Original article: An Olympic disgrace

as a matter of fact kansas girl they study both brain physiology and function

and the more they look the more similarity they find between haumans and other mammals. Of course we can never absolutley prove what ANYTHING is feeling including another human, but we can makes reasonable inferences based on overwhelming evidence, for people AND at least some other animals.

Monday, March 24, 2008 06:24 PM
Original article: An Olympic disgrace

nope doc it's putting the rights of something than can suffer over the rights of something that cannot

as indicated by overwhelming evidence. I'm concerned about a doctor of medicine OR philosophy who can't get this.

Monday, March 24, 2008 07:10 PM
Original article: An Olympic disgrace

8 month fetuses aren't aborted unless the mothers life is in danger, or they are going to suffer and die anyway and nobody thinks they should be

you are either the perpetrator or the victim of propaganada lies

Monday, March 24, 2008 07:12 PM
Original article: An Olympic disgrace

there is actually a huge amount of relevant scientific data bearing

directly on both of the questions here.

Monday, March 24, 2008 09:25 PM
Original article: An Olympic disgrace

ok, maybe I was too quick but it's a common winger lie

that the ability to get "abortion on demand" exists though the ninth month, or the sixth month.

Monday, March 24, 2008 09:30 PM
Original article: The best-laid plans

you guys are MEAN!

you knew what is was about from the tagline, so if it's not your interest why read it.

Monday, March 24, 2008 11:32 PM
Original article: An Olympic disgrace

you can make a good argument that dogs and cats have feelings, but it's difficult to make a case that they are fundamentally different from a pig

apart from the dogs or cats greater apparent capacity for social and emotional relationships as manifested in the relationship that we experience with them. With dogs at least I think you can make a reasonable case that the evidence shows that canine social relationships are of a qualitatively different nature than those of even other mammals. With cats the evidence seems less definitive. Yes all mammals bond with their mothers and most have some herd sensibility. There's a difference though between a general herd bond, yes I know they know they can distinguish individuals, and what a dog has with people which is a very strong emotional bond. Dogs have been domesticated a long time too, it may be that their relationship with humans now has evolved biologically.

Monday, March 24, 2008 11:37 PM
Original article: An Olympic disgrace

Dog and cat societies organise themselves by tooth and claw. They kill members of their own and other species for both food and "sport"

Human societies do the same thing, so if you are, as you seem to be, implying that this fact says something definitive about the species in question I'm not sure what it is.

Tuesday, March 25, 2008 11:51 AM
Original article: An Olympic disgrace

the point I was making Tim is that since the "dark side" of animals exists in humans too it's existence can't be used to define the difference between them

nobody would dispute that humans have abilities that animals don't have.

Most Active Letters Threads

523

The crazy, irrational beliefs of Muslims

Tom Friedman explains the real problem: stupid Muslims think the U.S. is about war and aggression.
417

The face of rotted Washington

Evan Bayh demands more debt-financed war - fought by others - while boasting that he's a stern "deficit hawk."
185

Bigotry wins in Switzerland

By voting to ban the construction of minarets, Switzerland apes the most extreme intolerance in the Muslim world
129

Facebook, the mean girls and me

At 34 years old, I finally feel like a popular seventh-grader. How sad is that?
103

Polanski moves from jail to ski chalet

The rapist director is granted bail, and one of his most vocal apologists celebrates

View all »

Letters Help

Currently in Salon