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Wednesday, January 28, 2009 12:43 PM

men compete with each other sexually but it is different and in some ways more straightforward:

the "alphas" always get the girls, period (even though what it takes to be an alpha can vary, somewhat), and since it is obvious that EVERYONE can't be president all men learn early that there isn't much that can be done. For women on the other hand it is ALL about other women: ANY WOMAN IN THE WORLD, no matter how objectively pretty or ugly or anything else good or bad can potentially be the hot babe that every guy is after or the ugly dog that no one will pay any attention to. It depends ENTIRELY on what OTHER women around her are like. So of course women are in some senses more competitive.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009 01:04 PM

But you are right, there is tremendous competition between men, but none of it is sexual appeal competition.

I think we agree on the facts, just not on the labeling. I think the things you are talking about ARE sexual competition, but you are right men do NOT compare themselves to each other in the way women do (or not with the same emotions when they do it anyway), for the reason I described in my prior post.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009 01:17 PM
Original article: Don't cross Rush Limbaugh

so, the Republican party, both it's elected officials and it's grassroots, has officially decided: Rush Limbaugh is the republican answer to Barak Obama

how could a party made of of people THAT STUPID EVER have gotten in charge and stayed in charge for so long. It is almost incomprehensible.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009 01:36 PM
Original article: Don't cross Rush Limbaugh

there aren't that many rich people, all of the voting volume of the republican party comes from rednecks

the 10% of the country that has economically benefited from republican rule can't elect a govt on it's own.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009 01:51 PM

it's interesting and socially significant kryptogal that a society where women are totally in charge of everything in every way and never have to deal with any male dissent/defiance in any form

(obviously this state of affairs is necessarily implicit in the situation which you describe) is so widespread and so accepted by so many people.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009 03:24 PM

if the US govt uses tough love to enable the part of israeli society that wants to control the settlers rather than the part that wants their sabotage to succeed

it could change everything, provided, of course, that the Palestinians are really willing, collectively (which means they have to REALLY control their own rejectionists), to deal.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009 03:46 PM

it's too bad Hamas and the settlers can't be locked in a cage together and separated from everyone else

if they could be everyone's problems would, eventually, be solved.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009 09:14 PM

In this case, where does all the angst about penis size come from?

It has nothing to do with what men think, unless they are gay, but with concern about what women will think.

Thursday, January 29, 2009 12:30 PM

I don't post under any other name than my own, but I can assure you that if a man could be assured that he could stick his dick into any women and she would immediately fall in love with him

he would have no interest in what other men thought about his dick, or about anything else, really. It is by no means clear that size doesn't matter, and even if it doesn't that assurance doesn't mean much coming from women who appear to be ambivalent, at best, about dicks of any size.

Thursday, January 29, 2009 12:40 PM

I don't buy the "guys looking at other guys dicks in the locker room" stories. I think that is feminist/gay wishful thinking/fantasy/hope.

There is very little connection between the size of a limp dick and the same dick hard. It is true no doubt, actually I am certain that it is, that some men aren't comfortable naked around women they aren't in the process of having sex with, because lots of women aren't aware, or they pretend not to be aware, of this fact.

Thursday, January 29, 2009 01:58 PM

believe me, if I could be anything other than totally straight I would be

I'd get a lot more sex with a lot less work.

Thursday, January 29, 2009 02:16 PM

the idea of a lesbian transsexual does seem contradictory somehow

I know that this just indicates my lack of understanding.

Thursday, January 29, 2009 02:19 PM

As long as you all subscribe to the collective denial, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Your caste privileges will be safe.

The only difference I can see between the status of straight men and the status of everyone else is that straight men, unlike every other group, have to work and/or pay(in some form) for sex.

Thursday, January 29, 2009 03:07 PM

just to be clear I am VERY aware that a large percentage of "socially straight" men are not "totally straight" as I define it

but it irritates me that so many socially and culturally prominent voices are able to, with apparently a great deal of success, sell the idea that we are a minority or rare.

Thursday, January 29, 2009 04:58 PM

It may be an old tactic but it seems to me obama is being successful

at it in a way that the dems haven't been before. The MSM coverage for instance, IS painting the GOP as obstructionist. No democrat in 30 years has been able to get them to do that.

Thursday, January 29, 2009 05:38 PM

Obama's approach should be to acknowledge the good intentions..., then state the other side's methods don't work as the last 8 years have shown, and that he has been elected to enact policies that are different to the last 8 years.

This is exactly what he is doing, with some success apparently

Friday, January 30, 2009 11:29 AM

Oh, except for the fact that the government and society like you, recognize you, privilege you. ... while I'm a second-class citizen who does not have equal rights, or enjoy the equal protection of the laws. So, there's that.

except that it isn't clear, what, exactly, in practical terms any of that means. Unlike the difference I pointed to. If I could do whatever I want, whenever I want, with anyone I want, without anyone being able to do anything about it what would I need "privileges" for.

Friday, January 30, 2009 11:34 AM

easy question, easy answer. When pro lifers support free contraception for everyone we will know that being against abortion is not just a code for sexual control

until they do we will know that it is.

Friday, January 30, 2009 12:27 PM

no doubt it is an emotionally fraught issue for a reason and I am all for (somebdy else) reducing tension and anxieity by handholding

as long as necessary principles are upheld and reality is not lost. There is no doubt that the issue isn't a simple one emotionally. In particular I can't understand why ANY woman, other that a committed religious dogmatist, could possibly be anything other than completely pro choice. Yet clearly many are ambivalent. If they were not the pro life movement would be a tiny fringe cult which no one would take seriously.

Friday, January 30, 2009 12:44 PM

Even if 95% of Americans believed that a victim of rape and incest should carry a resulting pregnancy to term, I would still hope that legislators would take action on behalf of the victims to ensure they had the option of abortion.

that would be a vain hope, though you are right in principle. Principles by themselves don't determine anything, you have to deal with political, emotional and cultural reality too.

Friday, January 30, 2009 01:12 PM

criminalization and belief can't be totally separated, because the decision to decriminalize something

(unless you don't have a choice) is an affirmative statement that you are willing to accept some people making the "wrong" choice and you are affirmatively distinguishing it from cases where you are NOT willing to allow this.

Friday, January 30, 2009 04:56 PM

the reason I keep harping on this particular issue is because it is central to the "gender wars"

not because I think it is the only thing that matters in life. It is a real issue though, and if real peace, rather than forced submission, is what people are interested in then it will have to be dealt with. It remains very much an open question whether anyone is interested in doing so.

Saturday, January 31, 2009 11:51 AM

if you want it done your way own a slave or pay someone to do it, otherwise the person doing it gets to decide how. Women have no trouble with this idea when THEY are doing the work

why do they have so MUCH trouble applying the same principle when a man is doing it. When women think they exclusively own everything in their environment it is almost unbelievable that men do ANYTHING. Actually the only reason they do is because they are a lot hornier and more romantic than women. If the roles were reversed women would be gone.

Saturday, January 31, 2009 12:52 PM

the government forcing someone to behave as though a 3 month embryo is a human being is no less religious by any rational standard than the banning of eating meat on friday or the eating of pork

but it is not treated that way. The fact that it is not perfectly illustrates that law, reason and logic follow the election returns and the culture. You have to change peoples thinking, well feeling really, somehow, if you want change.

Saturday, January 31, 2009 01:00 PM

i live in seattle and am straight

at the last gay pride parade 99% of the male spectators appeared to be wearing nylon rei type shorts and tech fabric. In other words they looked exactly like me, more like me in fact than I usually encounter in the straight world (not that the phrase has any meaning around here). It made me sort of nervous. Could you all go back to feather boas or something, I have enough problems getting across to women as it is.

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