Letters to the Editor
dick dworkin
Published Letters: 1012 Editor's Choice: 5
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Of course men can be just as starry-eyed and breathless about a man they admire as women can be about a woman they admire. It's 1 part admiration, 1 part identification and 1 part "damn I wish I was him/her"
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Based on my personal experience I would tend to say this is NOT true to anywhere near the same degree for men that it is for women, but then I've never been a big male sports fan OR a huge male Bush or male Obama fan and when I think about those examples I have to admit that it IS pretty widespread.
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So, while men may 'constantly call their selfhood into question,' the difference is that women have it done for them.
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Obviously you are not a man who has ever tried to have sex with a woman. TCF may be showing disturbing signs of theological deviancy but it is nice to know that someone is there to rigidly uphold the eternal verities.
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the reason men in traditional cultures are more physical towards each other is BECAUSE the attitude towards homosexuality is so extreme that the quesiton of being one is socially off the table
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]men whose biggest problem in life is how to get women interested in them, that is to say all straight men, don't want to start off by leaving the impression that they are out of the game altogether. The extent to which men are supposedly threatened by homosexuality is vastly exaggerated, most men don't care about gayness in men one way or another what they DO care about is getting fucked i.e. not fucked in regard to women. The problems men have with gayness mostly come down to this.
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there's another reason that men don't mind killing other men and that is that they only really are interested in women and they like elminating the competition
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]when it's someone like you political poet, that is just an added bonus.
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although as someone who has looked for sex online I can personally attest
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]that there are a LOT of "socially" straight men who by all the evidence put a LOT of effort into attracting women but who are also willing to do men. I've never really understood it; since men are so easy why would someone who can go both ways bother with all the extra work that dealing with women involves.
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I think 57 nailed it
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]everyone is not the same.
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do you think flatent when the vast majority of men admit their true gayness that the few straights left will have better luck with women?
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]or will women get all their needs for masculinity met by gay men? Given that the 10% of the male population that is gay seems to exchange as many words with women as the other 90% I really do wonder.
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it's really the fault of men for being such good natured suck ups
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]the problem is that in the current economically and culturally androgynous world any other strategy risks a lifetime of celibacy.
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Do share and end the ignorance!
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I try
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part of what it is about is the same old game of claiming that women and men are the same
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]women often seem to care about their non sexual friendships as much or more than they do about their sexual ones, men, if they have any kind of a real attraction and are not just making do, generally don't. Women's sexuality is also more fluid than men's. Quite a bit or research has shown that men, even bisexual men, ALWAYS have a MUCH stronger sexual reaction to either males or females. It is never equal for men but for some women it is. The term crush may well be used because it implies that the reactions that women have to other women are the same as the reactions that men have to other men, or would have, in the absence of external pressures.
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and I think the reactions of all the gay men here that man crushes, whatever they are, prove that everyone is really gay
[Read the article: Women and their "girl crushes"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]serves to reinforce my point.
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A fundamental tenet is that we have a right to take action or advance positions without justifying them by referencing an external set of rules or principles
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]In what way is this distinguishable from sociopathology? Oh yeah, women don't need to justify what they do because their motives are INTRINSICALLY good.
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you don't have the right to assert anything in the sense that you are trying to force or pressure someone to do something
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]unless there is a justification for doing so. To do otherwise is pathological. Persuasion is another matter. Saying what you would like is another matter. I have to say that men seem a lot more clear on this point than women. They don't behave any better. They just aren't as delusionally self justifying.
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in the context of assenting to a proposition one is either PERSUADED that it is valid according to the ASSENTORS own EXTERNAL STANDARD
[Read the article: See? See why I get hysterical?!?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]or one does NOT assent to it, or one is PRESSURED to assent to it even though one is not persuaded.
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if something is true the only ultimate answer is to make the case openly and persuasively
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]you can not manipulate people into seeing the truth. Obviously the ideal is not always achieveable and you have to deal with it the best you can at the time, but it's no real solution.
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I didn't say you were trying to do anything. I said that your assertion that: "we have a right to take action or advance positions without justifying them by referencing an external set of rules or principles"
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]is wrong. You don't have the right to do something which can't be justified.
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requesting assent to a proposition
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]is an action.
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if both parties to the interaction don't agree that it is justifiable what gives one party the right to unilaterally
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]make the decision for both of them.
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actually she is pretty funny
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]when I can figure out the point without too much effort.
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Is there some reason that you think my actions or speech constitute the making of a decision for both of us
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]Yes, if you have any opinion as to what the response should be then you obviously have decided that the preferred response is more justified than the others.
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Do you usually speak and act without any thought or preference regarding what people will do in response?
[Read the article: See? See why I get hysterical?!?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"Again, what is it about the idea of me speaking or acting without offering a justification that bothers you?"
Nothing, provided I am totally free to decide whether what you are saying or doing is justified and respond accordingly.
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So, is there anything else that bothers you about the idea that I am prepared to speak or act without offering justification?
[Read the article: See? See why I get hysterical?!?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]No, provided that I agree with the unoffered justification. Otherwise I will be saddled with the conflict which results form the disagreement which I would prefer to avoid, perhaps by selective hiring.
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If people can justify themselves they usually do, it usually ends up being much more effective.
[Read the article: See? See why I get hysterical?!?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]In most, not all, situations the distinction between unjustifiED and unjustifiABLE is academic.
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that's because you weren't trying to get me to do anything
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]BTW I didn't say you were sociopathic I said doing what can't be justified was sociopathic. After that everything hinged on the distinction between what "could be" and what "is" stated. Hi Bill.
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I would like to see a study in reverse i.e. the interview process has no sexism in it at all,
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]good luck getting agreement on an experimental design
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It's actually better when women don't like sex
[Read the article: Women watch porn to please men?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]that way you know that when they are doing it they are making an appropriately great sacrifice.
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if you are male
[Read the article: Women watch porn to please men?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]maybe they aren't as all gay as you, or possibly they, think.
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the question vivalanerds is, if men are themselves how many women will have sex with them, answer: not many
[Read the article: See? See why I get hysterical?!?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]given the number of women who complain about being hit on when they are trying to be UNattractive there is clearly a different situation there. As long as feminists refuse to admit this or refuse to admit that it matters or should matter none of this is likely to go away. It may be possible to shut people up but there will always be something going on.
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defintions of hypersexual:
[Read the article: Save boys from tween tramps!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]1) More sexual than you
2) More sexual than you "remember" being at whatever age we're talking about
3) More sexual than you want you kid to be EG. interested in sex before than have completed high school, college, and grad school.
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I'm surpised no one has shown up yet to enlighten us all about how EVERY ONE OF THOSE ASPIRING PORN STARS
[Read the article: Women watch porn to please men?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]was either impregnated and abandoned without help of any sort and is desperately trying to save their child from starvation OR was the victim of multiple gang rapes by all her male relatives or, most likely, both.
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if they think different clothes are going to lower the level of hysterical horniness among teenagers
[Read the article: Save boys from tween tramps!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]they are sadly deluded. Actually it's hard to believe anyone could take this idea seriously. In fact I'm fairly certain no male really does. SOME women however ARE natural prudes and they may be the source of the current incarnation of this idea.