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Friday, June 13, 2008 10:16 AM
Original article: Hard drive

If even one percent or half of a percent or a TENTH of a percent of women choose to have only female children

then OVER TIME if this trend is consistent the population will become OVERWHELMINGLY female. It has nothing to do with whether or not most people think this is a good ides.

Friday, June 13, 2008 10:25 AM
Original article: Hard drive

maybe it's not only sea slugs and fish that can change gender, I could swear I've read the same article and seen

all the same things being posted before many times except that the people posting them were all female.

Friday, June 13, 2008 10:33 AM
Original article: Men, talk among yourselves

It's very simple: if you are turned on by someone then talking to them is not boring

Since men are more turned on by more women than women are by men women are more likely to find men boring than the other way around. The dynamics of conversations among only males or only females are obviously 2 for a total of 3 different subjects.

Friday, June 13, 2008 10:40 AM
Original article: Men, talk among yourselves

and both the subject and the conversational styles are differnt

males have to prove that they are better than all other men and they also have to prove that they can provide a wide variety of services and resources to women that women can't provide for themselves if they ever want to have sex. This fact and the biological and social adaptions to it lead to among other things men tending to dominate conversations if no one stops them.

Friday, June 13, 2008 10:48 AM

I tend to agree although my optimism is being tested by the response

to TCF.

Friday, June 13, 2008 10:52 AM
Original article: Men, talk among yourselves

and women are equally obsessed with forming and maintianing long term emotionally in synch

relationships both with the parents or potential parents of their children and with other women so they will have the greatest possible assistance with raising their kids.

Friday, June 13, 2008 12:33 PM
Original article: Men, talk among yourselves

my lizard brain may give me an erection, but it doesn't mean I want to use it.

speak for yourself dude, seriously this is usually and maybe always at best a half truth. If you aren't gay (or bi enough to make do in a pinch) your dick WON'T get hard, in other words this is a form of denial. Doesn't mean you HAVE to use it or you SHOULD use it, or that there isn't some genuinely conflicting emotion surrounding the question of it's use, but you DO want to.

Friday, June 13, 2008 12:37 PM
Original article: Men, talk among yourselves

which is not the same as giving

consent

Friday, June 13, 2008 12:47 PM
Original article: Men, talk among yourselves

and women are equally obsessed with forming and maintianing long term emotionally in synch relationships

and because they are more instinctively equipped and motivated as well as, secondarily, more practiced, they tend to be better at it.

Friday, June 13, 2008 03:35 PM
Original article: Men, talk among yourselves

"deceit" is rape?

big mistake to go there I think (probably you aren't meaning it literally, but it has been meant that way in the past and some probably still would like it to).

Friday, June 13, 2008 06:02 PM
Original article: Baby mama drama

they apologized only because they could see it wasn't working or going to work

if it HAD worked they would have run with it. They will be trying anything and everything from now until the election to see what sticks.

Saturday, June 14, 2008 11:41 PM
Original article: Hard drive

it may or may not work both ways

it MAY be possible to produce eggs without a female, though this hasn't been demonstrated yet unlike the case with producing sperm without a male which has, and incubate them in an artificial womb without producing insane people, though this obviously has also not been demonstrated, but the question remains: how many straight men would WANT to be parents without the involvement of women? we KNOW lots of women want to be parents without men if the men aren't performing to their liking and if they can afford it.

Saturday, June 14, 2008 11:51 PM
Original article: Men, talk among yourselves

It's essentially a competitive enterprise, while women in general talk to build raport and relationships. These are, by the way, generalizations, but this is the way we're conditioned.

It's not conditioning, or not only that, it is innate. Men HAVE to prove themselves if they want to have sex, women HAVE to have people who will help them raise their kids. It's both absurd and contrary to a mountain of evidence to believe that these facts haven't influenced the biological evolution of people.

Monday, June 16, 2008 10:35 AM

the problem, well one of them, in addressing this issue is that since males and females are different a lot of the stereotypes do have SOME basis in reality

but everyone wants to respond to the reality and spin the responses of others in the way that they think is most to their advantage, so the only way to address the issue is to deal with gender openly.

Monday, June 16, 2008 10:40 AM

MEN should develop a sense of humor about themselves!?

ok everyone should, and some men may be lacking in this department, but it sounds like it is being suggested that men are particularly lacking in this area compared to "others". This seems like a bizzare suggestion. O yeah, since men have ALL the power they should have a sense of humor about EVERYTHING, and since women have NONE, they can't be expected to have one about anything. Actually due to competitive reasons men tend to have a sense of humor about men generally.

Monday, June 16, 2008 11:57 AM

The two most common themes in ads are hot women and stupid men.

This is exactly the point: men are far more likely than women to openly maintain and act on an interest in women who don't want them than women are to do the same with men, this makes men "stupid", since the men want the women more than the women want the men it also makes the women "hot".

Monday, June 16, 2008 03:45 PM

I'm quite confident a lot of the realities of innate gender COULD be sorted out

were it not for the fact that doing so would conflict with important cultural and political agendas.

Monday, June 16, 2008 04:31 PM

if you finally get someone to vote your way

are you going to complain because they voted wrong before

Monday, June 16, 2008 04:33 PM

and as for all ideas being compromised by agendas, fine, but some are more compromised than others

if that were not the case no progress, or indeed meaningful movement of any kind, would be possible in any field of intellectual endeavor.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008 10:14 AM
Original article: Men snip, but don't tell

women can admit to using their looks to attract men

but relying on looks alone is not a socially acceptable strategy for men so it follows that actions whose only purpose is to make one look better are publicly compromising for men in a way that they are not for women.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008 12:43 PM
Original article: Men snip, but don't tell

the question is: why isn't it acceptable to openly want to be more attractive to other people?

is it because we are supposed to "get beyond" the physical i.e sexual? is it because we are supposed to "get beyond" being attracted to smooth skin more than wrinkled skin? nobody questions it when people try to put off age related loss of mobility, age related loss of mental capacity, age related loss of bowel and bladder control, age related inability to metabolize glucose, etc. etc. so why should people find it strange that people wish to put off age related loss of sexual attractiveness/function (obviously you can't easily function in a meaningful sense if no one is attracted to you)for as long as possible.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008 03:44 PM
Original article: Men snip, but don't tell

is robert redford "aging beautifully" not many women think so, at least not when it comes to -hypothetically- putting their money where their mouth is

the only problem, as the above poster indicates, with cosmetic surgery is that it doesn't work very well. Sooner or later there will be EFFECTIVE ways to counteract at least a lot of the effects of aging on the skin. One thing you can be sure of, this area of medical research will never lack funding.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008 04:05 PM
Original article: Bareheaded in the park

so feminists, at least in Iran, WANT men and women to socialize?

does this mean that they think men and women should think and act alike?

Thursday, June 19, 2008 05:39 PM
Original article: A new form of birth control

yes and there will also be a way to force it to be gay

since the only men enthusiasitic about marriage are gay and since most women seem to think that all the worlds problems are due to men "objectifying" women it seems likely that this knowledge will lead to a HIGHER rather than a lower gay population.

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