I hope there will be freedom of speech garbage cans and bonfires available on those campuses as well. This is disgusting.

I'm not getting something here. This child is completely running the show in this home. If the adults want to 'save' her, then they have to present her with some rules and boundaries. I don't blame the writer for wanting the child out of the house--because she has been defeated. She needs to stop being defeated.

Happy kids need to know that they belong, but they also need to know where they belong. Decisions about what the adults are doing must be made by the adults. And hiding in the bedroom when the husband isn't there will only perpetuate the self-loathing this poor woman suffers from now.

Both adults need to STAND UP! And say that we know you have had it rough, and we are here for you because we love you. But YOU ARE THE KID, AND WE ARE THE ADULTS! Only then, in my opinion, will things improve.

I am afraid the husband is being seduced by the child. And not in a particularly subtle way. This is common. Family therapy is in order--and right away.

Cary is absolutely right-just get out. He is nuts.

So you had a threesome-so what. I assume none of the three were forced into it and it didn't involve chidren or animals. There are way crazier things you could have, or might have done in the past. Are you supposed to regret everything forever?

What does this guy have in his past that freaks him out so much about yours? Thats why he won't go to ongoing therapy-don't you think?

The great thing you had with him before seems to be fake now--based on the truth. Move on--be happy again.

Milking the cow to make a cake and eat it in the forest...what's wrong with having a little talk? If you (your "guest") don't want a serious relationship, then go somewhere and don't have one. That's not what is happening here. You (the writer) don't deserve to be used like that.

I totally symapthize. I can't believe how many people are taking Olga's side here. They are all probably writing from their cubicles intead of working as well.

My concern is that you care about this too much. I agree with Cary about letting her fail. Don't EVER do this person's work again. Other than that-let it go. If someone asks about Olga's performance at work, be honest-brutally. Then focus on doing your job. Embrace the fact that she is incompetent-and believe it or not-things will be easier for you. Don't put yourself in a weakened position with management for this bimbo. This is, after all, just your job. It's not really important enough to effect the rest of your life. But I suspect it has. Take a breath-and let it go!!