Look, your BF has told you loud and clear that he does not want marriage or kids, or at the very least, that he does not want those things with you. Listen to him.

Don't end up like my beloved cousin, who married a man who was adamant that he didn't want kids. She, too, thought that he'd change his mind. He didn't. She's rather recently divorced and in her late 30s. I think she'd make a wonderful mother, but unfortunately, time is not on her side.

Incidentally, 26 is not too young to seriously think and talk about marriage and kids. DH and I were 24 when we got married a couple years ago; my sister will be 25 when she ties the knot this summer. Granted, we're in an area of the country were people tend to marry young.

Sit him down and have a serious, frank talk with him about what you envision for your personal future. If he answers with fake vomit and fart jokes, well, I guess that would be revealing, too.

I don't think that the bf is immature because he says he doesn't want marriage and kids. Hell, I don't want kids myself.

I think the bf is immature because he thinks that fake-vomiting is an appropriate response to the mention of kids. I think he's immature because after a year, he apparently can't have an open conversation about the relationship with his parter.

Part of the problem is, not all hormonal BC is the same, and every woman interacts differently with each version. Generic drugs that are just fine for one person can have a catastrophic effect on another.

Plus, a pill that must be taken at the same time every day isn't a good option for many college students because of the variability/unpredictability of their daily schedule. The Nuvaring, the Patch, etc., are better options in that case, and as far as I know, none of them have generic equivalents. (Hell, even with a predictable daily schedule, I was terrible about remembering my pill, so I switched to the Nuvaring.)

Though everyone is focusing on the college women aspect, this amendment wouldn't affect just them. It also affects low-income women who use free or low-cost clinics, like Planned Parenthood. And why do I think that some of the posters objecting to subsidizing birth control would be among the first to blame these women for "having kids they can't afford" when condoms fail?

Seriously, Cary? Your best advice to this immature asshat is that she should get married and pop out a few kids? Unless that's your idea of a joke, that's horrendous. I wouldn't want a woman like that to babysit, much less be responsible for her own.

LW: (Assuming you didn't steal this lovely scenario from the Jerry Springer show) What the hell are you thinking? You knew he was a no-good, lying cheater, yet you "have feelings" for him and are cheating with him on your best friend?

Yeah, take the first part of Cary's advice. Break it off with him. Slowly back out of your friend's life, lest the temptation to either confess or re-offend make you even less of a "friend" than you are. Figure out what the hell is wrong with you, that all a known cheater has to do is say that he likes you, and you'll betray your friend of 14 years.

Jeebus, with a friend like you and a fiance like hers, your supposed best friend will never lack for enemies. Come to think of it, what the hell is wrong with her?

The "Recovery" jargon was a bit much. I mean, what's actually going on? When the LW says, "Ouch," is she literally saying ouch or is she calling him names and throwing stuff? What does she mean, she has her own recovery? From what? What change and grief are affecting them? It makes a difference for the practicality of advice.

LW, it's simple. You have a right to let your husband know when he's hurting you. We all hurt the ones we love, because we're human, and you can't avoid that, no matter how much Recovery and therapy you attend. The thing is, most people who hurt their loved ones, apologize and try not to do it again. Your husband doesn't seem to realize this.

Frankly, he seems like an asshole. He's handed you the responsibility for *his* emotional wellbeing, for *his* "recovery," whatever that means. He's ducking responsibility. What's worse, LW, is that you're dancing to his tune. You believe that if you justifiably tell him that he's hurt you, that somehow that makes you responsible for his reaction.

It doesn't.

Look, it may "prove him right" for you to start taking a stand, for you to declare that you must be treated with love and respect, but what are you willing to put up with to prove him wrong? More emotional abuse? How about a fist to the face? Repeated beatings?

You can love someone and still recognize that being with that person is bad for you. So you have to decide how much you're willing to suffer, how much worse you're willing to let him treat you, before you give him the ultimatum: Treat me with respect, or I'm gone.

And stick to it. His self-destruction is not your responsibility.