Letters to the Editor
Lestat1
Published Letters: 401 Editor's Choice: 18
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I will opine
[Read the article: Breaking into the boys club]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The difference between one of these all male social clubs and all female Curves, MONEY. Also, may I point out that Curves is owned and operated by an anti-choice contributor, which means that he holds antiquated views on what a woman's place is. So I don't exactly see Curves as a reason to why Men's Only Clubs are okay.
Men's social clubs are indeed about leisure, excercise and relaxation, but it's also about building relationships which will increase their likelyhood of getting a new client, being offered a lucrative contract, ect. Ya know, the ol' boys club that some men in corporations still try to practice. First it was golf, then women learned how to play golf. Now the latested trick is holding meetings in strip clubs.
Most people figure that when you know someone personally, see them outside of their professional persona you are more likely to offer them that no bid contract, or proffer their legal services, have them sell or purchase a home for you. Which excludes women access from building more capital to eventually compete with men equally in the marketplace.
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Well lets see kufir
[Read the article: Google gives free voice mail to San Francisco's homeless]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Any person can engage in drug activity with or without voicemail. It's kinda hard to get a job if there is no way for an employer to contact you to set up a place and time for an interview.
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Feel entitled much?
[Read the article: I'm a condo parking-spot hoarder!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"As mellow and easy-going as I am, I would be pretty damn annoyed if I had to park several blocks away and walk home late at night in the rain when my neighbor had an unused parking space 10 yards from the front door of the building."
Hey, when you aren't home can I come in and use your HDTV and BlueRay DVD player, I mean you aren't using them and I have the Transformers movie and it looks soooo much better than on my crappy 24 inch TV. Oh, you have this really nice big yard with a pool and hot tub, I don't and I need to have a 4th of July BBQ, can I use your yard because you'll be on vacation so you won't be using it and my guests will like to so much better than my tiny yard with no pool. Why do you think a private parking space is any different than your home or your yard or lawn or pool or whatever else you own? So you think just because it's visible to your eye you have a right to it because otherwise you'll have to walk, in rain?
You are not entitled to anything that it not YOURS just becaus the other person isn't using them.
The child who says no is exerting their power, their boundaries and it is hard because you also want to teach your children to be generous and to share, so it doesn't seem like a big deal to tell a child well you aren't using it, let Sally play with it. Well I have an example of why children may be wary of letting others use their things.
I recall as a child, I had a play date. I had lots of art supplies that I kept very good care of, they were precious to me. The girls mom insisted I let her daughter use my crayons and watercolors, she would take really good care of them, I promise. What happened you ask? She broke over half my crayons, she got watercolor all over the carpet, ruined my coloring books by scribbling all over them and I cried for a really long time because now my things were broken and there were stains on my floor. So my mom never had that kid and her mom over again. Another time I had made a new friend and she wanted to borrow some books, I said no I didn't lend my books out, why you may ask? Because I was poor and books were one of the few luxuries I was able to have and I didn't want to lose them. So what did she do, take them anyway, lost a couple and ruined the covers and pages of the ones she "borrowed". I still have those books and it still pisses me off that the books look awful, dog eared, torn with unknown drink and food stains on the pages. I keep them around as an example to people of why I am not a lending library. Only my brother is allowed to borrow my books because he has the same attitude towards books that I do. I have a right to decide who gets to use my stuff and I have the right to say, no, you can't use my stuff. That isn't to say I don't share, I share things that are not precious to me, that I won't mind if it gets broken or lost or won't irritate the piss out of me the owner when I come home with a friend and find that someone is parked in my space because it's raining and I expected to use my things for my friends.
Unuse by the owner does not mean you get to use them. When someone doesn't want to let you use what's theirs, they generally have a reason, it's not just selfish spite.
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I like Will Ferrell
[Read the article: "Semi-Pro"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I just don't like all of his movies. I hated Bewitched, loved Stranger than Fiction and Elf was okay. I really enjoyed Anchorman and Old School, hated Blades of Glory and Talledegah Nights was only okay because of Sasha Baren Cohen. I didn't like the look of this one at all and I think he needs to do something other than riff on sports.