Letters to the Editor
Lestat1
Published Letters: 401 Editor's Choice: 18
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Oh super
[Read the article: After my husband died of cancer I found he'd been cheating]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]So you are an honest, loyal husband and you can't even sign your screen name, seriously?
Sure there are men like you, they are just rare and hard to find and many times when a woman finds a man she thinks is like that then finds out 5 or 10 years later that nope, he's just a good liar. Until this man died, I'm pretty certain that this woman thought that her husband was loyal and would never dream of hurting her this way. I've got many girlfriends who state, oh my man would never ever cheat. Then find out, oh I guess he would. If I found out my husband cheated, I'd head straight for divorce, no pass go, shove your I'm sorry's up your ass. But I would eventually try to forgive him and remember that we had many great years of laughter and fun and new life experiences we shared together. I wouldn't want to reduce a lifetime into what a goddam scumbag who didn't deserve me.
There is no way to tell beforehand what kind of fidelity your spouse will be able to follow. Especially as the years go by and the looks fade and wrinkles and grays appear while there are always crops of young and attractive men and women out there and available.
If we can forgive people for their drug addictions, their gambling problem, whatever their issue is, having sex outside a marriage is just another problem some people have. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with the person being betrayed, but it doesn't necessarily mean you shouldn't eventually try to forgive the person for doing something harmful to you.
If she had found out instead that he had been gambling away their money and she only found out about it after he died, I'm sure that she'd feel equally shocked and betrayed, but eventually she would be able to forgive him.
Of course sexual betrayal is unbelievably painful and destructive, sexual intimacy is basically what makes married people married and not best pals or roommates.
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Well
[Read the article: Child porn or edgy art?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I wouldn't exactly call a 17 yr old a child. When I was 17 and 18 I really resented the people who were a few years older than me calling me a baby at my place of employment, like oh yeah you 22-26 yr olds are so much more mature than I am, was that you puking your guts out last night after the bar closed?
I just don't really understand the use of nudity to sell couture clothing. While the naked body in itself isn't sinful or obscene, our culture is still pretty touchy about nudity so it seems that using nudes, the nudity will get more attention than the clothing at least here in the USA.
Nor can we control what goes on in someone's mind when viewing a half naked picture, so someone like me will probably just look at the clothing or the pictoral scene, while someone else might jerk off to it. I would find my brother using my Cosmo's for his um "pleasure" from time to time.
So while I wouldn't necessarily view a nude in a sexual way, someone else might and I really don't think 17 is that big a deal, if she had been 12, then yes I would agree that it's inappropiate to use a 12yr old model to sell adult clothing, but I have a problem with that already. If you are selling clothes to well heeled adult women, use models who are well past their first menses. Leave the 10-16yr olds to model tweener and junior clothing.
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Um
[Read the article: Birth control costs spike off campus, too]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I really don't understand the disconnect.
It seems that liberals tend to want to see everyone having sex freely and without shame(which is good) but then wag their fingers over the babies that result from having sex, knowing full well that no birth control is 100% and people aren't perfect.
Then the right wingers say restrict sex, only in marriage, blah blah blah but have lots of babies, lady don't control how many times you get pregnant unless it's bt remaining celebate.
Sex and babies go pretty much together, accept it and accept that having a child is nearly as strong an impulse as having sex is.
I'm all for a single payer health care system where everyone's health needs are met, much the same way we pay for public education, the police and fire departments and other emergency services.
I find the idea of structing the tax code based on what services you do or don't use to be laughable. So Shazzer did your parents never let you attend any public school? If you did go to public school, then some childless homeowner paid for your education too. Shall I pay fewer taxes because I prefer to buy books than use the library, or I've never needed the fire department?
I don't believe in penalizing people for what comes naturally, pair bonding, sex and reproduction, though I don't think I'd object too strongly to getting rid of the tax deduction for having a child as long as the world is on population overload.