Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 401 Editor's Choice: 18
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Female rebels
[Read the article: Binge-drinking problem? Blame Amy Winehouse! ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Yeah, uh huh, okay, women can be alcoholics too! Just instead of the drunk housewife, she's now the drunk pop star! Like women weren't drunks before feminism or the modern era, sure.
When I was in high school there were girls who binge drank and girls who didn't, the same of boys. I figure binge drinking for attention and social anxiety issues has probably always been around. Didn't people have festivals to get drunk off their asses? Many people grow out of their binge drinking days, I know I did. I never got as drunk as a couple of my friends but hey, we all turned out okay and our drinking was more about playing grown up and wasting time than emulating famous people. How many grown up parties do you go to where there isn't liquor? Isn't there always someone who got to drunk at the wedding reception?
Except for some people who didn't party, everyone I knew drank at parties and there was always one or two boys and girls who drank way way too much.
If anything, it's just equality and if we don't need to protect boys from the big bad media then we don't need to protect girls. Some will be dumb and some will be smart. Some will be moderate and some won't. Hey, they'll be teens and do stupid stuff. Crap, teen girls do things for attention from boys the way teen boys do stuff to get attention from girls? They just have different ways of getting attention, girl drinks, kisses other girl and lifts up her shirt, boy jumps into pool drunk after punching some dude in the face. Eh, kids.
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Perfection isn't going to happen
[Read the article: I want a perfect wedding, but my in-laws are trashy]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]No one's wedding is perfect, because like someone else said, this is earth. You know what though, on that day it doesn't matter that things aren't perfect because you will be deliriously happy. You will also be so busy running around taking pictures, going from guest to guest, eating, drinking, throwing a bouquet, garter toss, cake cutting that anything less than desireable, you won't even notice.
At my wedding, one of the model worthy servers showed up in a very skimpy server outfit(it was scorching hot that day) that made her the object of admiration from many of the male guests, I didn't even notice her; I was made known later that many of my female guests were really pissed off under the guise of shouldn't she know better than to upstage the bride! You should have fired her! Just many grumblings about the hot server that I was shocked, I just didn't care what some hired help was wearing. My best friends mother wore a ridiculous dress, low cut and mini-skirted, but did I care, nope and it's funny that many of the guests still recall the lady in the french hooker outfit.
So calm the hell down, this young woman did not get pregnant and plan a wedding near yours all just to upstage you, she was likely just thinking about herself and her own happiness as you are doing with your own wedding. Plus, give the gal a break, you were shacking up and playing house too, just sans a child, instead, you had a dog.
As for the no child policy, well I suppose it's your perogitive but it's kinda lame to say niece or nephew isn't welcome at our family event and possibly force the fiance/wife of the best man to stay at home. Most mothers aren't going to feel that comfortable leaving their 1 week or 1 month old baby with a complete stranger and I doubt she's going to have a breast pump and bottles. If your newest relative is banned from the wedding, let me tell you, your new family members are going to think you're the uptight spoiled bitch, not everyone dislikes children or breeding as you do, it will be the subject of family gossip for years.
Now if your soon to be family to be isn't close to your brother at all or you'll probably never see them again, then sure tell them newborn isn't allowed and screw what they think, but if your going to see them on holidays and at family functions for years to come, it'll probably be less of a problem to let the newborn come. Most people don't whine about how it's not fair their kid didn't get to come, when the kid who did was a newborn to the wife of the best man, the wedding party does get a little bit more leeway than the other guests.
My wedding had my 1yr old nephew there, didn't notice him at all, he didn't make a peep. My best friend just got married, there was a newborn there, no one noticed her, she never made a sound, not at the rehearsal dinner, not at the ceremony.
Oh to all the people suggesting elopement, hilarious, she planned this thing for over a year, only really rich people have the luxury of planning a shindig for this long, making the deposits then deciding, eh, fuck it, let's elope!