Letters to the Editor
Lestat1
Published Letters: 401 Editor's Choice: 18
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Now I know how people get conned or treated poorly in their own homes.
[Read the article: My new roommate arrived ... with mom attached!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Hi, I'm sally nice to meet ya, this is my mom, she'll be staying one night, I mean a few days, now a week, possibly all summer!
Oh be nice, suck it up, you know it wasn't the agreement made but most spoiled selfish assholes expect you to be the "bigger person" be nice and accomadating, don't sweat the small stuff. Towels on the floor is small stuff, eating your leftovers is small stuff. This is not the subletter is messy, she's noisy, she plays her music loudly or takes forever in the bathroom. She brought another human being in who doesn't pay rent into her sublet without even asking if it was okay first!
Now if this girl is so sick she needs mom, that is something that has to be disclosed, it does not mean she has to disclose what the illness is, just that it requires assistance that requires an animal or human helper. While it's illegal to refuse to rent something to someone because they have a guide dog or a nurse, it just makes it further suspicious that the subletter didn't say I need mommy to play nurse because I'm sick.
But the subletter didn't say any of this, she just moved her mom in figuring no one is going to kick out someone's mother when their little girl is sick. It's selfish, inconsiderate and rude and frankly, I doubt her illness requires assistance. Otherwise, she'd live with her mom at moms place and save the cash.
No one is saying the LW should sit down and say look you lying little bitch get your mom out of here or you are packing now!
They are just saying she needs to sit down with subletter and explain the rules, like you are renting a room for a summer, not you and your mom. Mom has to go, by tommorow, there was no agreement to move your mom in too, if you are too sick to live without a nurse then either mom pays rent too or you both have to move so I can find a new subletter.
Allowing the agreement to be adjusted to allow mom to stay once money changes hands would be nice, allowing some woman to stay as long as she likes while it makes you unhappy because she's related to your subletter is being a pushover.
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Don't these things exist already?
[Read the article: The Empathy Belly]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I do recall a joke skit on Full House where Uncle Jesse was wearing a fake belly because of some bet he lost with his wife.
Then on 10 Things I Hate About You, a movie about a decade old, the dad would have his teen daughter put on one of those fake bellies before a date to remind her what the consequences of sex are.
So this one may be the highest tech model out, but it's certainly not a new idea.
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I second the are you freaking nuts?
[Read the article: A 19-year-old wants my husband]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]So you and hubby are polyamorous and Cary doesn't seem to want to trash that or come off as some ol' fuddy duddy so he's like hey it's cool, maybe you'll help her, yeah help her destroy your family!
Hey, no it's not. From my understanding of polyamorous relationships, everyone involved respects the marriage as primary. That the extras are just fun sex friends, people who are also poly or like being the objects of peoples affections without all the emotional entanglements and may have their own relationships so there is respect and communication between all parties which makes this free sex life manageable.
This young girl who just lost her virginty does not understand the rules of a poly life, she's just infatuated with the older man who's all responsible and is being attentive towards her, attentive in a way I frankly find weird. Work is not the place to be discussing alternative sexual life styles, how did this come up in the first place?
This girl is young, looking for attention, from men, from friends, from risk taking behaviors and she'll either destroy herself or look back and go that was fun times, but no one can predict either outcome.
So my advice to you, if your poly relationship is really strong, if your husband is really a stand up guy, you tell him to tell this girl to stop calling, stop texting him and to absolutely stop discussing his and her sex life because this girl does not respect your marriage and she wants to get drunk on the power of making a married man sleep with her instead of his wife. She is too young and too inexperienced to understand that a poly relationship is not about a man getting to sleep with whomever he wants and his wife doesn't get pissed off.
So tell your husband that no, he cannot be her master and that the way to respect this young girl is to tell her the truth, she is not respectful of his marriage and family and so no, he will not sleep with her and she needs to focus more on single boys her own age and have a few conventional relationships before deciding she's ready for an alternative one.
Also who is this other woman trying to initiate this young woman into a BDSM life? If someone comes to this life on their own fine, but I never trust recruiters.