EditorAnne is correct. This little angry and frightened and insecure guy hasn't been given the care he needs to get through this divorce. He needs to be taught by his parents how to process the break-up of his family through all the anger and pain that grieving entails.

His dad needs to get an apartment in the same city as his mom. He and his son need to make that a home. If the boy is frightened to sleep alone, he and his dad can sleep in two single

beds in one room for as long as it takes for the boy to feel safe.

This family has three years or so- before hormones start raging- to stabalize and get the little guy feeling more secure. The parents need to do whatever it takes - more quality time, setting better limits, family therapy, support groups for kids of divorce in the school system,the son living with the dad without LW there every other week-end. By the time he's 13 or so, it may be too late.

That said, the LW can see and sleep with her boyfriend whenever the son isn't at his dad's place. This, I believe, is the only hope for all four people involved.

Perhaps I missed it but I haven't seen a video of Romney getting choked up as he is purported to have done in the past few weeks. If crying on the campaign trail is so newsworthy, Salon, than let's be a little less sexist and provide a video of Romney doing the same,as well.

-Bindi/girl

As a nurse-midwife and doula, I've witnessed hundreds of births. No child or teen in attendance has ever been traumatized. In fact,

at any age, it is such a privilege to witness the astounding site of new life emerging from the womb. And talk about bonding? Stare into a newborns eyes long enough and both your hearts will melt forever.

-Bindiwoman

LW, what if you chose to see your panic as the wonderful teacher it can be? Panic is a symptom that some very deep feelings- like anger and guilt and sadness- are trying to make themselves known. The opportunity, here, is to learn about these feelings you have buried and free yourself from what must be a lifetime of self-doubt. Why not take this time as an opportunity to get yourself into really good therapy? Jobs will come and go and we never know what life will bring. If you get to the root of your feelings now, you'll be able to face whatever comes without panic and become the glorious person you were meant to be.

LW, Keeping a secret from your spouse puts a wedge between you two, even if he's unaware of it being there. Maybe it's not a large wedge, but one here and one there and after a while, you've got a wall.

Keeping a secret because you're afraid he'll get mad implies that he can become mean or punishing or withholding or belittling when he disapproves of your behavior. Either that or you just feel you need to please him at all times.

In any case, why don't you use this experience as an opportunity to get closer, as a means to more intimacy? Tell him what you did and why you were afraid to tell him and that, because you love him so much, you were now "coming clean" in hopes you could both learn and grow?

SARAH PALIN IS DICK CHENEY WITH LIPSTICK. She confuses being mean with being tough. She confuses making simplistic divisive comments with providing strong, dynamic, and effective leadership.