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Tuesday, November 24, 2009 09:52 AM
Original article: My boyfriend is my boss

random lessons you are learning

you can't control what other people think or say about you.

the only way not to be talked about is to never ever do anything remotely interesting.

people do not realize how frequently the witty comments they make are things that have been said by other similarly-minded people over and over and over again

all you can do is figure out the person you want to be, and be that person

if things are going well for you in your personal life, (some) people will give you a hard time about your professional life.

if things are going well in your professional life, (some) people will give you a hard time about your personal life.

when things are going well for you in all spheres of your life, (some) people will not be happy for you.

sometimes, focusing on others' needs and not so much on your own perceived problems will solve or diminish your problems.

Monday, November 23, 2009 05:32 PM
Original article: Everybody hates mommy

splain please

I totally get why you don't bring a 9 year old to a non-kid-oriented movie, or kid who only eats grilled cheese with his fingers to a nice restaurant, but what's with no kids in bars? If it's all loud, who cares? Does it somehow make it harder for you to drink alcohol and yell if the person at the next table is short and having a soda?

Monday, November 23, 2009 05:19 PM
Original article: Everybody hates mommy

aren't men breeders too?

men breed - don't they?

Monday, November 23, 2009 11:59 AM
Original article: Everybody hates mommy

@johntfrazer

that was really, really good. Thank you.

Monday, November 23, 2009 11:43 AM
Original article: Everybody hates mommy

the kid should be walking

honestly, the gargantuan 3 and 4 year olds being hauled around in strollers munching on snacks... what are the parents thinking? that the kids aren't going to exercise until they are old enough for a personal trainer? and then the parents complain that the kid doesn't go to sleep at night. Of course they don't! They aren't tired, because they haven't moved all day long!!

Wednesday, November 18, 2009 01:41 PM

a woman who wants to be taken seriously

shouldn't use the name "Candy."

Wednesday, November 18, 2009 01:38 PM

larrfirr

I did figure out the 'hide' thing. If you later change your mind, can you un-hide someone's feed? How?

Wednesday, November 18, 2009 09:28 AM

weighing in on the possibility that this is fueled by depression

I didn't realize until I started taking an antidepressant how much depression had to do with my urge to confront everyone I viewed as creating a problem for me. On the medication, I can intellectually acknowledge I'm bugged by something, ignore it peacefully and move on, doing my own thing my own way.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009 03:56 PM

"It assumes a verb sense of 'friend' that is really not used"

Not quite accurate. The existing word "befriend" is a verb that means to make friends with someone. It also connotes a kind of condescension (to me at least), as in "She took pity on the new girl in school and befriended her." To "friend" someone on Facebook is similar (superficially) to befriending someone in real life. This also feels consistent with "unfriend."

Monday, November 16, 2009 12:28 PM

It's you

everyone is just so sick of listening to you talk about your first parenting experience.

Friday, November 13, 2009 02:11 PM

I bleach my hair

Now I wonder if I look as bad as poor Sammy does.

Friday, November 13, 2009 10:43 AM
Original article: Is your pilot drunk?

Why do you say the Northwest incident was totally overblown?

It got less coverage than balloon boy, for example, and to me, at least, it seemed like a pretty serious problem with potentially major ramifications for large numbers of people.

Friday, November 13, 2009 09:57 AM

My hair looks like this

When I forget to wash it for a couple of days.

Friday, November 13, 2009 09:52 AM

JaaZee

Well, JaaZee, I don't want MY tax dollars paying for the multitude of social problems that result when unwanted children are born. I DO want my tax dollars paying for abortions to prevent those problems.

Thursday, November 12, 2009 02:48 PM

Jesus wasn't too big on judging other people

Or their choices. He was just about loving and forgiving. And he cared about live people, not embryos.

Thursday, November 12, 2009 10:31 AM

What to say

"I have no idea! If I were a guy I would marry you. I think you are perfect."

Then change the subject.

That's all.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009 04:23 PM
Original article: Your vagina is ugly

this is that joke, right?

the one where the guy goes to the doctor and says about five times that he feels great, and the doctor says "but you look awful" and he says yeah, but I feel GREAT!! and the doctor says "but .. (you get the idea).

Finally the doctor gets out a medical book and says "Oh! You're a vagina!"

This was very funny in high school.

Tuesday, November 10, 2009 07:07 PM

go with the flow

just because you are upset at the cop, LW, doesn't mean you need to make everyone else around you crazy too. By your own admission, you are driving irrationally slowly because of the ticket you got. Cut this out. You aren't an 8 year old. Stop sulking. No one cares about the point you are making. Just drive like a normal human being. EVERYONE -- or virtually EVERYONE -- has gotten a ticket they didn't deserve. EVERYONE has been yelled at or criticized for something when someone else was being a MUCH worse person than they were. News flash: life isn't fair. You aren't going to make anything better by driving like an asshole. It isn't making YOU feel better, is it? So suck it up, pay the ticket, and resume driving with the flow of traffic.

And if you persist in driving the speed limit, you'd better stay in the far right hand lane, or I might kill you too.

Tuesday, November 10, 2009 01:49 PM

what she forgot

He is without sin amongst you, throw the first stone. Translation: don't try to get famous on the basis of being holier-than-thou if you've got a sex tape or two in your background.

Tuesday, November 10, 2009 01:47 PM

Baron Scarpia

No, I can't feel sympathy. She chose to open her mouth and support injustice. We aren't tearing her from limb to limb, or tarring and feathering her. We are opening OUR mouths and expressing our disdain and disgust for her ignorance. Sorry, but she doesn't have any right to a warm bath of compassion. She wants gay people to suffer. I won't hurt her, but I'm not going to say (or feel) anything nice about her.

Monday, November 9, 2009 04:41 PM

great article

I didn't notice the 60s/70s thing. The substance was too compelling.

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