Wow, JuliaZ, I never thought I'd be cheering FOR the person who brought the seat-kicking-child onto the airplane! Way to go! I love that your daughter got to be the one to get back at the jerk, too.

And THAT is why so many people are bugged by people who recline. Like other posters have said, I'm very uncomfortable with the seat in a fully upright position. Somehow my head is shoved forward, and there's no lumbar support. So I'll recline a little bit just as soon as I can.

But I don't recline all the way back. And what I really hate are the jerks - often tall men with large upper bodies - who recline all the way back, put their hands behind their heads, and then proceed to LEAN back against their seats as hard as they can, forcing the seat back to bounce into my lap. Do they really think they can make the seat recline further, or are they trying to break something, or are they just jerks?

Speaking of jerks, I can't believe someone would complain that a baby SHOULD be in a parent's lap. No child should be in a lap - everyone on a plane should have a ticket and a seat. That lap-baby thing certainly ranks in the top ten of the stupid things airlines do. Do people really care so little about their children's safety that they'll risk the kid's life to save a few hundred bucks?

And I'll avoid getting started, for now, on how much it sucks that someone can carry a 2-year-old baby in their lap, but I can't buy a seat for my dog.

Seems like Cary's answer to this one could have been one word. Yes, anyone who thinks that "a good slapping" is an appropriate response to a t-shirt, or something to inflict on one's wife, is a bad person. Why try to reason with someone like that?

And I must be clueless, but I can't find a double entendre in the shirt. Do I just not have a dirty enough mind, or am I overlooking the obvious?

Is the Kitty in question Hello Kitty? Does this guy really have perverted thoughts about a CARTOON character?

Wow, I've never heard it called a Kitty before. Pussy, yes, but surely that doesn't make all feline references double entendres. "Kitty not happy," for me, brings to mind Henrietta Pussycat more than the Vagina Monolgues.

But since the woman's supervisor didn't think there was anything inappropriate (and we all know that different workplaces have different dress codes, right?) it sounds like the LW is way out of line here....a bully or a pervert or both. The "across her breasts" line about the T-Shirt's design is a telling remark....he's thinking way too much about the shirt AND about what's under it.

It's not harassment just because one person is uncomfortable. There's a distressing logical extreme to this - the notion that women must wear burkas so they don't "invite" male attention. I would hope that the LW doesn't believe this. People have to get used to working with boobs (ooh - a double entendre!).

Every August, at the university where I work, we have young male students come in from parts of the world where women are forced to wear burkas, or otherwise cover up. It's a bit disconcerting for them to be around a bunch of young female students who are wearing the shorts-and-tank-top outfits that are perfectly appropriate for a hot summer day. Sometimes it's clear that they're distracted from their studies by their classmates.

But would they get to complain of sexual harassment? No. Because it isn't - even if they're turned on by the outfits.

If the woman were wearing an "I love my pussy" t-shirt, or even one that says "I'll be using these to my advantage," he'd have more of a claim to inappropriate sexuality. But I still say you have to be a perv to have sexual thoughts be the first thing that comes to mind from a cartoon cat.

I'm a Gen-Xer, who spends a lot of time around younger people, and have never heard "kitty" used a genital nickname. And I've heard a lot of nicknames.

It sounds like the workplace has a vague dress code. What, exactly, does "no personal ads" on a t-shirt mean? That doesn't sound like it bans all t-shirts, or even printed shirts. Like the London Underground story, seeing the kitty shirt as a sexual ad is an inappropriate interpretation.

Now. Seriously. Make a vet appointment, and don't ever bring them home. Make sure all the kennel/vet records are only in your name, and that they won't be released to anyone else.

Someone like this is likely to get more and more extreme. If the dogs are happy to see you, and you're happy to see them, he'll try to get to you by harming them.

Once they're safe you can try what you want - discussions, counseling, intervention, divorce, whatever. But you can't protect them and yourself when he gets worse, so protect them now and then work on him.

White women aren't always derided for having a black ass - I've been complimented on my "black girl's butt" more than once. And I've noticed that whenever I'm hit on by total strangers, they're black. Maybe it's the butt?

Slightly more seriously, I'll be glad to see Michelle Obama setting the fashion trends for the next 4 (and I hope 8) years. If her choices inspire some butt-friendly designs to hit the knockoff racks, my life gets a lot easier. One more reason to be happy about the election!