Letters to the Editor
Cynthia Montgomery
Published Letters: 36 Editor's Choice: 6
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True Grit Girl - who knew?
[Read the article: Cosmo, it ain't]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Well, since absolutely everything is now being media-ized, I guess it's no surprise that the religious faithful have their glossy publications out there.
My main interest will be to see what kind of blurbs are on the front covers - the teasers for encouraging purchase.
I'm really hoping for a magazine spinoff from the "Prairie Muffin" website...
"10 Ways to Hide Your Knees on a Budget"
"Getting Him to Propose: 20 Godly Guys Clue Your Moves"
"What Would Jesus Want for Dessert?"
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I can see it now
[Read the article: Have a very menstrual Christmas with ornaments made of tampons]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The heck with traditional ornaments.
In addition to the tampons, why not string condoms instead of popcorn...talk about a convenient, useful gift. All those shiny packages, so festive!
Make an angel for the top of the tree out of an old IUD and a few diaphragms.
Mix cornstarch, glitter and contraceptive jelly to gaily decorate your Kotexian ornaments.
Please post pix.
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So what?
[Read the article: Face transplants -- just for the ladies?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]After the woman's lower face was bitten and scratched off by a dog, she gets a transplant of a dead woman's lower face skin and maybe some cartilage.
As another poster stated, the facial appearance mainly comes from the underlying bones - and even if it didn't, so what? As long as the dead woman providing the material was a legal donor, by her own word or her family's, what issue can there really be? If there is something wrong with having part of someone's face, should it be illegal to ask your plastic surgeon for a Kidman nose? Should it be illegal for the doctor to make it for you?
This is only discussed because it is relatively new - not because of any real merit.
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Compulsive destruction
[Read the article: I can't stop accusing my boyfriend of cheating]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It seems unlikely that this woman can make enough quick progress to salvage this relationship. Even though she recognizes the destructiveness, she exhibits a compulsion to accuse and obsess.
In fact, she may be OC. (nothing wrong with having OC, but it usually requires some kind of treatment)
Be that as it may, she certainly shouldn't be in a relationship until she gets a better grip on herself.
I'm astounded that the man in question has even put up with this, and has abetted her problem by playing along. It doesn't matter if he is never out of her sight - a paranoid person will still fantasize infedilty, even when it cannot conceivably occur.
She sounds very afraid of relationships, obviously. And driving someone away with baseless accusations is a guaranteed way to do it. Especially if they get so fed up that they end up doing exactly what you feared - then you get the payoff of assuring yourself that you were "right" to be suspicious all along. Very sad.
As long as she has this terrible fear of being abandoned, and that she herself will contribute (what she says about her mom is the tipoff)
she will continue with the compulsive jealousy and controlling behavior. (the arrangement of him constantly being either with her, or in contact with her, is a major form of controlling another)
She owes this guy an honest apology, and a promise that she will quit the behavior. If her compulsion is so great that she cannot just bite the bullet, then she should do the honarable thing and break it off - then get some intense therapy or work on herself for awhile.
Unfortunately, people with this problem often also have a deep need to be in a relationship - as they are still looking for what they didn't get from the family one. She's trying to fix her relationship with her Dad through other men, essentially. Fix it and him so he doesn't leave her. It can't be done, of course.
One thing that might help her is to improve her current relationship with her father, and try to better understand what motivated her mother. Since she is playing the mom part herself, and projecting the father on her dates, improving her feelings about those two people could help her enormously.
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selfish
[Read the article: Her fetus was riding shotgun]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'm assuming that the fetus is actually on it's way to a job, otherwise the carpooling claim is absurd...never mind that the two are actually sharing the same seat.
Where do these selfish, moronic people come from?
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Singled out
[Read the article: Living single]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I love being single, although in my past there have been a few cohabitation relationships and a 5 year marriage. I always get my favorite chair and never have to wait for the bathroom. No one keeps me awake by snoring, having a light on, or hogging the covers. I never have to explain my actions or make regular sacrifices for someone else's needs, wants or feelings.
I don't have to share the newspaper or compromise on what film to watch.
My decor is not maimed by the inclusion of another's beloved yet lamentably unattractive crap.
I date, but only for fun.
Of course, my personality is probably a tad different from the norm. Having a solitary sort of bent (which naturally affected my past relationships) I do enjoy the company of others, but don't need it, or find it compelling - short of the person being routinely fascinating or challenging in some way. My passions and pastimes are unusual; best enjoyed and pursued solo - and I hate having my necessarily intense concentration interrupted for anything short of a major disaster.
The point? If I had been more aware of the vagaries of my solitude-loving personality years ago, those doomed relationships wouldn't have happened...and I wouldn't have hurt those men with my self-ignorance.
Living alone and not spending emotional and mental energy wanting or looking for love gives you an opportunity for real self discovery - which in turn makes it more likely that you will eventually find a love that you can happily live with.
Perhaps someday I'll meet a man with complementary peculiarities - who knows? Like many good things in life, love comes out of nowhere - and almost always when you're not looking for it.