Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 81 Editor's Choice: 15
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Never sleep with someone who has more problems than you
[Read the article: A 19-year-old wants my husband]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I had a hard time figuring out what this letter was about (swinging, stalking, drugs?), but ultimately I think it's just about boundaries, and when does a person bring someone else's troubles to their table.
My dad's advice to his daughters was always golden: "never date someone with more problems than you have", and I think it's a pretty good rule to go by...and then extend it to casual sexual encounters to.
18-24 are the shittiest years out there. I'm sure the girl will muddle through the hard way like everyone else did. And you are not her "mother hen", you are simply the wife of the man that she wants to fuck. Actually, you're not even relevant in this scenario. And if your husband did become her "Master", how would she ever really grow up if another man was just telling her what to do (while wearing leather and a whip).
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Kids bite like carnivorous pig bats, it's just what they do
[Read the article: Somebody keeps biting my 2-year-old]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]What? A two year old biting?
Note my slight sarcasm. My son has been both the biter and the bitten. When he first started at daycare I was horrified and enraged that some vicious snaggle-toothed three year old would sink his fangs into my precious wee baby. Fast forward 18 months and Jack is the one snarling like a rabid dog, gnashing his teeth at any other child who dared to touch his Thomas trains. He didn't just bite in anger....he also had this uncontrollable urge to come up behind me, wrap his little arms around my legs and then bite my ass. Inevitably, I'd yelp and he'd cry from disappointment that I didn't think his bites were as good an idea as he did. Mind you, my ass is juicy and delicious, but having it bitten often got tiresome. He eventually outgrew it, and now his sister is biting the hell out of him, when she can.
Kids bite. Biting is bad. Biting can hurt another child. Who is at fault? I'll tell you who....the adults in the room! Two year olds need to be watched vigilantly - they are mobile savages not to be unleashed on each other. In an ideal world they would be placed in protective bubbles and would learn to socialize via video-conferencing, rather than through the dirty work of living in the real world. If you know a kid is a biter, then the daycare providers need to police the child until he's old enough to learn self-control. And to the LW, take heart, you're kid will soon be biting all of his friends and you'll sigh when the phone rings at work and you see the number of your child's daycare on call display. Relax, it's just a phase.
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Are you on crack???
[Read the article: Goodbye to Audiofile]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Bad editorial decision #2. Seriously terrible decision. First the Fix, and now Audiofile? See ya, I'm migrating over to slate.com
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Yeah, I'm cancelling my premium subscription too
[Read the article: Goodbye to Audiofile]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Sorry, but I won't pay for an diminishing on-line magazine that I can read for free if I watch a few ads. I used to pay OUT OF PRINCIPLE, but I'm starting to lose my affection for salon.
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Dawggone is my new hero
[Read the article: Would you like that placenta fried or in pill form?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Hands down, the best letter ever written on salon.com. Ever.
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Dawggone
[Read the article: Would you like that placenta fried or in pill form?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]And having given birth twice, I'm 99% certain that Dawggone's PPD remedy would have definitely worked for me. Next time!
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It's never just about the laundry
[Read the article: My husband won't do his laundry]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It's about the other stressors in your relationship - your husband's previous unemployment and now - wowzers - that you are a full-time caregiver for a 5 and 3 year old because of your daughter's illness. That is HUGE. You can call it "laundry" but really it's so much more than that.
It's really human, eh, to try to tackle big sad problems by trying to simplify them into trite mundane tasks. If only he'd do the laundry, then I wouldn't feel frustrated.....
How do you feel about being thrust into the role of a caregiver? Is it maybe something you don't want to do, but wouldn't even IMAGINE resenting because it's really no one's fault?
When I had my second child, I found it very stressful and was constantly bitching at my husband for all of these mostly perceived, but some real, shortcomings on the domestic front. My sister gave me some good advice - she said "Don't start pecking away at each other right now, becuase once you start you'll never stop", and that's so true. When things are at their most stressful, the only way through it is as a united front.
Sounds like what you need is just a whole lot of domestic help. Sit down, talk to your husband about the bigger global issues and ask him to figure out a way that you are both happy. Maybe it means throwing a bunch of money at the problem, but tackle the problem with the goal of creating a harmonious household where the children and adults are all happy.
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Save the drama for your mamma
[Read the article: Veiled women allowed to vote]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This is another example of people taking a hypothetical situation and using it to create a pseudo-clash of civilizations scenario. There is no greater way to villify an entire class of Canadians than to imply that one group doesn't have to follow the same rules as the majority. I can cast a ballot through the mail, if I want. And the Chief Electoral Officer? He's no Anti-Harperist, he's just responding to the exact wording of the legislation. He's a lawyer, he's just giving an accurate analysis of what the law says (as per his mandate). Harper is just trying to turn this into a law and order issue because he's in campaign mode. He just loves to come out as a "take no rubbish" leader, a non-ditherer, but this debate is all about creating a conflict when there really is none.