Letters to the Editor

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  [Read the article: I'm a babe, a total catch -- so why am I alone at 39?]
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  Go read The Republic of Love, by Carol Shields. It's a wonderful novel about a woman in your predicament, which is really a very universal predicament, isn't it? The heroine, like so many of us, is a real loser in love but a fascinating multifaceted woman with a neat career, a warm vast interesting family, nieces and nephews and a she has a great big hole where she thinks something is missing. The novel itself is filled with "sunshine and determination" and carries the reader through the trials and tribulations of a number of relationships. In the end the reader is left with a sense that meeting The One, isn't always all that, but it has the potential to be pretty great. And that being alone doesn't have to be lonely.

  LW - most people spent a good chunk of their life alone, and that's not a bad thing. Maybe you won't have children, but many fascinating women like you meet their life partner at any age. There's nothing wrong with you, I'm sure. Just carry on, have as much fun as you can, and before you know it you'll have some big smelly guy on your sofa, farting and watching the Super Bowl, and you'll be longing for the days when your house was all yours, when there wasn't a guy trying to bring his ugly furniture into your house and peeing on the toilet seat. Seriously, enjoy every day of being a single woman. Eventually you'll meet someone who you adore, and you'll want to be with him, but you will miss the independence and freedom that your current live affords you. Just celebrate every phase of your life because one morning you'll wake up and realize that your old life is gone and be bewildered by how quickly things can change.

  Permalink Tuesday, January 23, 2007 06:41 AM