Letters to the Editor
pewella
Published Letters: 81 Editor's Choice: 15
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Let it go, indeed
[Read the article: West Bank or U.S.? Boyfriend or job? Seeking two-state solution]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]What I found fascinating about this letter, and Cary's perfect response, was that at first glance it looks like the old "job vs. love" scenario, but really, it's about so much more than that. The real question was "How does one pursue their multiple passions, without resenting the sacrifices?" And, as Cary wrote, the key to having the freedom to pursue one's dreams without it costing too much is to simple let go, and not try to control everything.
It's a fallacy to think that we always get back what we put into relationships, especially work relationships. And the sooner that you realize that a corporation has no soul, and that once your utility has been used up, you're toast, well then you'll understand the game more clearly and be better suitated to play the game more skillfully.
It's such a lie, this mantra that we all have to be 'team players', and that 'hard work brings success'. It might half of the time, but the American fantasy of the self-made (wo)man who brings success upon him or herself because of qualities such as industry, pride in one's work, etc., will almost always bring disappointment to those who believe in it too much.
Workers are always called upon to make sacrifices beyond the hours of 9-5. Work until 7 or 8. Put off having children. Move out of state and leave your boyfriend. The carrot is always "do this now and the rewards will come". Well, sometimes they do but mostly they don't.
I agree with Cary. The trick to happiness is to never give more than you'll resent. And that is exactly why, at this very moment, I'm sitting at my desk pretending to write a legal opinion, but in reality I'm fucking the dog and posting a rant on-line! Now that my inner-rebel has been sated, I'll click off and get back to work.
Arroooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
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Perez Hilton is no friend to GLBT's or women
[Read the article: Perez Hilton's gay witch hunt]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]First of all, Perez Hilton is dumb. He's illiterate and has no grasp of grammar whatsoever. How he could be a managing editor of any magazine other than Dsyxilcs Tadoy is beyond me.
But while everyone focuses on Perez outing celebs, which frankly I don't like, what I loathe about Perez Hilton, other than the fact that is how he treats any woman over the age of 29 as fat old hags. Until she was diagnosed with cancer, Farrah Fawcett was "looking rough" and an "old hag" and posted unflattering photos of her. The woman is 60. The minute she gets sick, Perez starts blogging "Get Better Angel" and pours out his treacly version of sympathy and, of course, deletes all of his sexist blogs that he had put up just a month before.
Then he posted a photo of BETTY WHITE, who is definitely a full-on senior citizen, and called her an old hag. When he was repeatedly flamed, his posting on Betty White and the Golden Girls became completely reverent. Go to this site and look up "Golden Girls" and you'll see what I'm talking about.
It goes on and on. He can't talk about Sharon Stone or Melanie Griffith without using the words "menopause".
When he's not obsessed with how every woman older than his BFF Paris Hilton is an old hag, he's focussed on how fat they are. That, of course, is quite the ironic observation considering his own spare tire than he has never managed to shed. One of his favorite postings is "fat or pregnant".
If Perez Hilton were a frat boy making these observations, he would be dismissed immediately. But since he seems to think that being queer is free licence to slam women (which insults noble gay men everywhere), Perez should be ignored and hopefully he'll slither out of the media's gaze in short order. He's no friend of the gay community, no friend to women, and actually, rather useless. Hopefully he'll soon be asking asking if you want fries with that order.