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If a man don't want to paid for a date, he shouldn't expect sex.
This statement is disgusting. If the same rule was applied to women, most women would die as a lifetime virgins.
But hey, feminism is about equality, isn't it?
Sex is exchanged by sex. This is a fair trade. And women who expect more than that are working in the oldest profession in the world.
Since biological ties do not matter and parenthood is not in the genes, I propose that, when newborns leave the hospital, they are assigned randomly to any mother who happens to be in the maternity ward. No need to waste money in controls that verify that kids are biological children of their mothers. Then, women would be happy to work for the best interest of the child who has been randomly assigned to them.
A woman who traps a man to support a child that it is not his, is not sued because of fraud. By contrast, her sucker has to pay child support for a child which is not his.
She cheated, she commited fraud, she received unearned money. It's all her fault but it is him who has to pay for the consequences.
Women are not responsible of their actions. The responsibility is transferred to the any men near them or to the State (financed by taxes mostly paid by men). Since responsibility is the hallmark of maturity, laws consider women as eternal children. Women are delighted. I am still waiting for feminist to protest the lack of equality.
Men who read this: Read very carefully the posts of these women who have tried to rationalize this injustice. Read every word. This is how women are. This is their sense of justice. These are not my words, they are theirs.
"The Rules" is crap, no doubt about it. But your article reads like a hysterical rant of a woman having PMS.
Every one of them is different and every one of them is beautiful.
And please, if some women decide to change their vaginas, don't subtly blame men about it.
"Lads' mags .. yaddah, yaddah, yaddah...a painfully sexist culture that encourages debilitating body shame..yaddah, yaddah, yaddah.. (more Broadsheet BullShit)...
It must be sad to be always trying to find any excuse to blame men about everything wrong in the world so women are not responsible of their actions. Since responsibility is the hallmark of maturity, this keeps women as eternal children.
But nothing is more pathetic that trying to blame men about some adult women willingly changing this thing we love so much in any shape. Give me a break.
Let us suppose an alien is visiting the Earth and "it" reads the fundamental works of feminism. If the alien was rational, "it" would have real problems to understand the almost universal animosity of feminism against porn.
After all, one of the basic tenets of feminism was to free women to use their sexuality as they see fit, trying to dismantle the previous cultural taboos about female sexuality ("being a slut" and so on). Porn models choose this profession freely. Their body is theirs. Is it not feminism about female choice? Is it not this trade between consenting adults?
When it comes to porn and prostitutes, though, the feminist woman behaves the same way a Victorian prude or a right-wing conservative women would. What is going on? Kryptogal (page 6) says it loud and clear:
What it comes down to is this: Joanna Krupa and others like her in Playboy make ordinary women look uglier and less attractive in comparison. Being attractive is a form of power, so when a woman’s relative attractiveness decreases, her personal power decreases. Therefore, by empowering herself, Joanna is disempowering other women.This is probably why women often engage in slut-shaming or anti-porn attitudes…not because they’re actually anti-sex but because it’s a way to protect the value of their own sexuality and attractiveness in marketplace
Obviously, this is all about sexual power. Porn decreases the sexual power of women, not only because they are perceived as less attractive but because men can relieve their urges without having to recur to a real woman. Prostitution is the same.
Let's imagine the male equivalent of the above quotation:
What it comes down to is this: George Clooney, and others actors and millionaires (or fiction characters like Don Draper or Mr. Big) make ordinary men look less attractive in comparison. Being attractive is a form of power, so when a man’s relative attractiveness decreases, his personal power decreases. Therefore, by empowering themselves, these guys are disempowering other men.
Do men rail against these guys and they want to forbid the shows where men are presented as a success objects? Would we have to ban the entire Lifetime TV channel? Would we have to rail against female porn movies like "Pretty woman", where a street prostitute gets a millionaire, making the average woman see ordinary men as less attractive?
And are women so delicate flowers that they see men watching beautiful women as a threat? (what about "strong independent woman?")Was not feminism about showing your worth with your work instead of having your sexual power to land a guy?
Most women want to eat their cake and have it too. They want to enjoy all the advantages of feminism (career, sexual liberation) and, at the same time, they would like to use their sexual power the same way as in the old patriarchy. They want to earn equal pay from 8 to 5 and they want the men to pay the date from 5 to 8. When it suits them, they are feminist. When it suits them, they use their sexual power as any woman before sexual liberation.
They are not feminist, they are feMEnist. And this is what lies beneath all this animosity against porn.