I like Cary's answer, but "I Liked You Better When You Were Happier and Sluttier" is some seriously good advice.

Adapting to a new person and growing as you learn more about yourself and that person through your relationship are good things. Changing your entire personality and, especially, your view of yourself are bad things and, huge, HUGE red flags for any relationship.

I was in a similar situation to you. My ex constantly criticized me, pointing out my deficiencies and inadequacies on a daily (if not hourly) basis. After a year of living together and another year of off & on agony, I finally ended it. However, that train wreck of a relationship has had lasting scars. I internalized his definition of me as broken and in need of repair.

Many other letter writters have said "dump him now" and I agree. But, I also understand it's not so easy, especially when your self-esteem has been so eroded by him. You may feel, as I did, that no one else will ever accept your "impure" self and that he is doing you some sort of favor by putting up with your past. That's what he wants you to think because it gives him all the power. But, you know what? It's bullshit. He's just a scared little boy who is intimidated by your strong inner self.

And, it's time to unleash that inner self that has been hiding before it's too late. It's hard, but you need to dump him now. The longer you let this go on, the harder it will be to get back to where you were before you met him. Good luck.

During 80's and 90's, the FBI kept close surveillance on a number of environmental organizations and activists because they suspected the Unabomber was one of those activists. Law requires the government to inform you that you have been monitored after the surveillance period stops. After learning of the government's activities, some of these activists used the Freedom of Information Act to get government records on the surveillance. One of the more shocking revelations was that the FBI had infiltrated peace groups in northern California.

Thus, I am never amazed to learn more about the quixotic methods employed by the United States government to rid us of "terror." (including so-called eco-terrorists) These agencies apparently will never realize that there is a huge difference between dissent and crime.

I have been very apprehensive about what a film version of Narnia would look like. This review has helped considerably. I hope I enjoy it as much as Stephanie.

"(Actually, "The Magician's Nephew" only became the first installment when Harper Collins repackaged the Narnia series several years ago. Until then, they were listed in the order that C.S. Lewis had written them.)"

Really? The books were re-packaged in a different order? Why? I realize that The Magician's Nephew is the first book chronologically, but The Lion, The Witch and The Warddrobe is the emotional beginning of the series. I always thought The Magician's Nephew was a strange book, and by far my least favorite in the series. I don't think I would have finished it if I hadn't already read books 1-5 and been entranced with the world of Narnia.

I remember disliking Edmund as a child when reading the books. However, as an adult, it seems to me that while Lucy is the most likable character, Edmund is clearly the most interesting. I also remember feeling that the reason Edmund does the things he does is due to his birth order. Peter is the oldest boy, Susan is the oldest girl, and Lucy is the baby of the family. Edmund is stuck in the middle and craves attention which he finds from the White Witch.

Also, does anyone know if the producers are planning to make the rest of the books into films? The Voyage of the Dawn Treader is my very favorite and I have always thought it would make a great movie. However, I cannot imagine what a film version of The Magician's Nephew would be like. And, if people are concerned about the religious undertones in The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe, how would they react to The Last Battle? In that book, the religious theme is pretty unmistakable.

Sorry, the last sentence should read...

Maybe the woman you are attracted to find your angry, bitter, misogynistic attitude repulsive.