Letters to the Editor
maryjane76
Published Letters: 15
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re: at 40 i am told that i a too old
[Read the article: Scary screeds about Maureen Dowd, written by threatened men]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]well robert, the world is bursting with too many kids already. at 6 billion and counting, i don't understand all this need to pass genes down. the truth of the matter is this: most people are mediocre and will produce more mediocrity. your financial situation will not ensure that your offspring will come out any less vacuous than paris hilton or kimberly stewart.
i can understand the urge to parent. but really, too many genes have been passed down--mainly defective genes because of the advances in medicine. many genetically defective people live on to adulthood and reproduce because of finanicial resources, when back in the olden days, where women knew their place and bred like bunnies, the weak ones were "culled" from the herd by nature and died young.
what will your superior finances guarantee then? if the kid comes out with any birth or health defects, your insurance will cover the costs. if this child proves to be a complete airhead, at least your superior finances will cushion this child's lack of brainpower, should that unfortunate development happen.
remember--money fixes everything. and in this case, you are completely right to wait to establish your financial status first before looking for that pretty 25-35 year old to breed with.
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SAHMs have a martyr complex
[Read the article: The stay-at-home mystique]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]i love kids and i deal with them on a daily basis in my line of work (i am a substitute teacher). but i find it narcissistic, annoying, and irresponsible when people start braying about how raising kids is the best and most important thing in the world. in a world bursting with over 6 billion people, we need less people who think that reproduction ensures moral superiority and wisdom of the ways of the world. it's this kind of conformist mindset that leads to raising more conformists who become interchangeable cogs in our society. so you stayed home for your kid. so fucking what? how does that better society and ease the burden on the earth?
look--i have a mother, and i'm grateful she had me. i'm also grateful that she wasn't hovering over my every move and let me do things on my own, let me explore things and find things out for myself. i liked the breathing room. i like that i earned some things, that it wasn't handed or spoonfed to me.
yes, many parents think their children are wonderful. but you know--it's their job to think their spawn is oh-so-amazing. the reality is this: like most conformists in this world, they produced more mediocrity much like themselves. it's very rare that anyone produces a kid that truly is special or that stands above the crowd.
so no, i will not congratulate anyone for being a parent. any fertile asshole can reproduce. and no, staying home does not mean you are a better parent either. i don't care if you are male or female.
as a kid whose mom didn't stay home, i take major offense that i am somehow raised with inferior care just because my mom worked outside the house. i mean, most of these SAHM must be surprised that i didn't join a gang, get strung out on drugs, get an std, or get pregnant at 15. goodness, it's a miracle i even learned to wipe myself, much less navigate the information superhighway to learn about the world around me! and yes, i manage to be involved in a meaningful relationship with a wonderful man. am i intrinsically better than the kids whose moms stayed home? no. but i'm not worse either. yes, there are kids whose moms who didn't stay home who got into lots of trouble. but you could level the same charge at kids whose mothers did stay home.
if you choose to stay home and reproduce like EVERYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD, good for you if that's what makes you happy. but please don't think you're special for doing what everyone else is doing. you don't deserve credit for succumbing to societal pressure and you sure as hell don't deserve credit for making homemade cookies either.
repeat: you do not better society just by popping out kids and staying home. some children grow up (regardless of whether they had a parent stay home) into movers and shakes of the world. most don't. most kids grow up to become just "filler" that go about their daily existence consuming and kvetching about shallow shit, much like the editor of Total 180.
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for the pureness fetishist:
[Read the article: My boyfriend can't handle my past]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]dump the jerk. he's more concerned about making you feel like shit than loving you for what you are. you need to ask yourself: why does he need you to be sexually ignorant? how does being a sexual retard improve your worth as a person? why does he need to hold this over your head? is this how a person acts towards the person they claim to love? you may be in love with this person, but is this person actually in love with you? you need to ask yourself if you need to be with someone who treats you so badly and needs to pull this sick midtrip over you.
sexual purity is overrated. virgins can't tell if the sex is good or bad, because they never had it. he's being an insecure asshole and you are letting him get away with it.