Letters to the Editor
Juliebird
Published Letters: 1767 Editor's Choice: 103
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some more reflection
[Read the article: Bill Maher: "Don't show me your tits!" ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]At 200+ posts, I went back to the video clip, and sifted through the posts a bit. And I think I understand something at last. It's certainly not the amount of bare flesh exposed. It's not about public courtesy. It's not about someone's "rights" ein "trumped."
What some people, including Bill Maher and several posters of both genders, is the idea of motherhood being an honorable choice. People are wigged out by mothers ... mothering. So they ridicule moms, call them "breeders," and say that all moms are self-absorbed, rude twits who don't deserve service in restaurants.
I'm not one to wax romantic about Motherhood as a saintly status, the most important thing a woman can do, or a calling. Children should not become the center of one's personal universe, and parenting isn't worthy of a Nobel prize.
But, parenting is rewarding, and good parenting, responsible parenting, thoughtful parenting, is certainly to be admired.
But, it's better to criticize and harass when something threatens our own self-image ("she's a better mom than I am/was/had" quickly turns to "she's such a self-righteous bitch, I hope her kids becomes a drug addict"). So of *course* that nursing mom must be doing it for the wrong reasons, or is doing it wrong (ie not discreetly enough).
It's very sad.
So one more thing to add about what nursing-in-public is not about: no one is tellng you you were or had a bad parent.
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@Badreligion
[Read the article: Bill Maher: "Don't show me your tits!" ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]" I only have a problem with somebody who's just trying to get attention,"
Well, yeah, I get annoyed by anyone who needs the spotlight. How can you tell which nursing mom is "legit" and which isn't?
"and the way that behavior is part of the baby/mother-obsessed parts of our society."
I also get annoyed at the Cult of Motherhood that seems a direct repeat of Victorian ideals, with SUVs, soccer practice, and manicures.
But one needn't be a Member of the Cult to breastfeed, in public or elsewhere. Sometimes a boob is just a boob, not a Symbol of Cultdom. Can we give the non-cult moms a break?
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then, let's be honest
[Read the article: Bill Maher: "Don't show me your tits!" ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]THese posters arent' anti-breastfeeding. THey're jjust anti-woman. How date these women threaten the cloud of self-absorbtion around the non-breeders? These women are uppity, and the righteous non-breeders can project any paranoid fantasy abouut what these womn are "forcing" them to feel.
But, some of your best friends are nursing moms, I'm sure.
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Rich
[Read the article: Bill Maher: "Don't show me your tits!" ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Several posters on this tread entertain ideas that nursing moms do so in public for attention, and to purposely ruin the posters' day. Certain posters think they can and should be the arbitor of what is and is not discreet nursing in public. At least one poster equated nursing in public to defecating in stranger's lap, while several others equated nursing an infant with performing a sex act. Most chillingly, at least one poster suggested that a manager's desire to not upset one patron gives him the right to violate the legal rights of another patron.
And *I'm* the one with paranoid delusions!?
I laughed so hard (cow's) milk came out my nose. Y'all are too funny.
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and it's part of the parody
[Read the article: Sex and the presidency]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]unless there's another show called "Gender in the City"?
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@anonymous
[Read the article: Bill Maher: "Don't show me your tits!" ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"I think you're writing about a comment of mine."
No, I'm referencing a comment by bkluebadger on p. 30.
Narcissist.
In need of meds.
Ooh! ad hominum attackes are fun!
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'scuse me
[Read the article: Bill Maher: "Don't show me your tits!" ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]referencing a post by badgerblue at the end of pg 29.
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I'm with Abby
[Read the article: Who pays for an unwanted twin?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"I would say that the twins pay most dearly." It must be a errible thing to feel unwanted by one's own parents. It must express itself in countles little gestures and slights.
While I can see the legal grounds on which to file a malpractice suit (specific patient instructions ingored for non-legal and non-medical reasons), I can only hope that ny reward will pay for the soon-to-be-needed therapy.
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There is no such thing as a right not to be offended.
[Read the article: Bill Maher: "Don't show me your tits!" ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Amen, amen and alleluia to everything in that post.
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just askin'
[Read the article: Hillary Clinton: Nope, still not gay]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Even with Senator Craig's Riverdance moves, how many male candidates for president, of either party, has been asked that question? I'm curious ....
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one question
[Read the article: Giuliani: 9/11 helped change my views on gun control]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]How would that affect the liquor sales?
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really?
[Read the article: Hey, senators, condemn this]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"These guys are soldiers...they want to BE soldiers and are happy being soldiers. And seriously, some of them want to finish what they started.
So why can't we support them doing it? After all, they volunterred to be in the military and do this job."
The soldiers I know (which, I grant you, is a small number) want their training and sacrifice put to the good of the country. Nobody I have spoken too volunteered to do "this" so-called job in Iraq, or any mission or operation in particular. They volunteered because they wanted to protect our soil, citizens, and constitution with their bodies. Or, they "volunteered" because they felt thay had no better options for making their future.
(BTW, thanks guys, for behaving with greater dignity, courage and honour than your C-i-C).
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the lack of consequencves
[Read the article: Binge-drinking problem? Blame Amy Winehouse! ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]is the problem, IMHO.
Teens see these stars screw up on a regular basis, and while teens can have a good laugh at Britney's meltdown, or Paris Hilton's tantrum, or Lindsay's illiteracy, they don't see any meaningful consequences. The celebrities' faces are still plastered on magazine covers, their names are in the msm. They still go to red carpet events, exclusive clubs, suer-cool parties, and are lavished with attention and luxury.
While adults (sometimes) recognize a hollow existence, not as may adolescents can. Since almost anyomne can have their most embarassing moment youtubed to the nation, I'm sure many teens feel the trade-off of looking like an idiot in their regular, boring life, or looking being an idiot in Britney's is worth it.
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Most women are mediocre mothers.
[Read the article: Are working moms the enemy?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Well, yeah. If most women were eceptional mothers, "exceptional" would become the new "mediocre".