Divamom, you say:

"But once again, I'm talking about most women, not the privileged few."

Do you know most women? My parents (baby-boomers), split housework evenly. And my dad is very conservative about many issues. My husband and I split evenly (he did more when I was having health issues), and most people I know split evenly.

And yes, statistics show that women do more housework, generally. So, you don't like this, and then blame feminism. Um, why not think that men still just have a long way to go to change?

I think its also funny when people say "all women WANT to say home." If all women wanted to stay home, how in the world did the feminist movement even start? If this were the case, the whole movement would never have happened. There would be no argument at all. Everyone would just stay home. If all women want to stay home, why do some women not? The very fact that a lot of women don't want to be full-time caregivers for their entire lives shows this statement to be false.

Anyway, life is complex. I'm working now, I may stay home while my kids are young. My husband also said he'd like to stay home while the kids are young. He said partially because he thinks it would be interesting, but partially because he feels that men generally don't put in enough effort around the home and with child care, and he personally wants to make changes to typical behavior in his own home.

That was one big thing for me when dating/deciding who to marry. I wanted a man who would partake equally in household work/child care. I was willing to stay single and childless for life rather than marry a man who wasn't feminist, even though I very much wanted a family and children. I would be interested in staying home for a few years, if possible, though.

What does this mean? I only wanted to marry a feminist man, yet I'm willing to stay home for a few years. How could this be? Obviously, if I self identify as a feminist, I must hate men or some such. But I got married. Then I must want do dump my kids at a daycare center and be crazy ambitious. Oh wait, I would stay home for a few years.

People are complex. Life is complex. I'm not sure why we try to pigeonhole everyone, or make sweeping generalizations based on personal experience.

I know my personal experience is unique, and not applicable to everyone. But if I were to talk the way people do here I should say "Well, obviously men want to stay home, because my husband and a few others I know do." Just because I experience something a certain way doesn't mean it holds true for everyone else.