Go to him now. You're already tardy.

Dear LW:

Like high school and junior high, law school sucks for the 90% who are not in the "in" crowd. It gets better later. The world is tiny when you're in school. It explodes in size later.

Also, people in law school are often absolutely nuts. People who you'll be around in the real world will tend to have learned to control the crazy.

Also, every law school group has its scandal. There's not much else to do, ya know?

The folks who you work with, especially when you're out of school, are the ones who matter. They don't show off by breaking people's noses. They live in the world you will soon join -- a place that does not have room for the crazy.

That said, I think Cary is silly here. Yes, you were wronged and a crime was committee, etc. But pressing charges or suing now, will not make them understand what they have done wrong. It would just make you look irrational. You're still in the land of crazy. Nobody understands that world but those who have lived there, and the vast majority who have lived there do everything in their power to forget the crazy. For those of us on the outside, law school is the big, stinking, bleeding, shit-covered elephant in the pantry we'd rather not see.

But worry not. It gets better. A lot better. Soon.

Jobs. Yours. Do. Hard. How?

Dear LW:

The words you script for him to say to you are only as important as you make his saying them.

You write that your relationship with him is wonderful in every respect, except he won't say the words you try to shove into him mouth. And so you throw a fit to him about those silly words. You overlook all the wonderful things is, the delightful things he does, and you stop hearing all the words he crafts to say to you. You insist on focusing on what he does not say. You're being controlling and unfair to him.

And when you dry your eyes and look past your own insecurities, you see he's still there with you. That's what is important, that's what's real. After your own mind stops warring, he's there, and the wonderful relationship you have with him is there, too. You can't script that.

The way I experience it, e-flat, the key of, is blue.

Perhaps you ought to fix the more obvious problems in your own life before you go and try to save someone else.

Yea, your kid sounds pretty bad. Setting aside consequences, etc., you might want to examine his diet. There's some evidence that some foods, dyes, additives, preservatives, etc. may trigger bad behavior in some children. He might also have an allergy of which you're unaware.

Good luck.

If #4 is an option -- modification of the terms of individual mortgages, on a mortgage-by-mortgage basis -- then I fail to see the so-called "fatal flaw" in McCain's "plan." In other words, if Congress could authorize someone in the judicial branch to modify mortgages, Congress could also authorize someone in the executive branch to modify mortgages.

Whether McCain is serious about helping individual homeowners, or whether he has become willing to tell whatever line necessary to improve his chances in this election, is another matter.

I dunno if you can. How's your foreign policy expertise? Can you see Mexico from your house?

No, you should not leave your husband because he won't quit smoking.

But you should stop threatening to shatter his world.

You should stop threatening to leave him, to take his children away from him, and all other terror that your leaving entails.

Or you should go ahead and leave him, so that he (and you, if you're capable), can find someone who loves his presence more than she fears his loss.

Like all people, your cousin's ex-partner is a mixed bag of positive and negative traits and attributes.

Sadly, your cousin may not be mature enough to say outloud that he is not Teh Devil. But he's not, you know he's not, and deep down she knows he's not. You don't spend 13 years with someone unless they offered you some things good.

If I were your daughter, I wouldn't mind inheriting that ring.

If I were your daughter, I would like inheriting that ring.

Assuming the marriage ends: So things didn't work out for you and your husband. Sometimes marriages don't work out and it's the best for all involved that they end.

At one point, you and your husband were in love, or believed you were in love, and believed you could spend the rest of your life living happily married. And from that passion and energy, came that ring.

If I were your daughter, that ring would be an artifact of the love and dreams my parents had for each other and for themselves. It wouldn't matter so much that the marriage didn't work and that you two moved on to other happy moments (as no doubt you both will). That the marriage ended wouldn't take anything away from the ring. That ring is hope. If I were your daughter, I wouldn't mind at all to inherit a little piece of my mother's hope.

I agree. I have my share of crap furniture. And my budget is small. So as I require more, and as I replace what becomes broken, I acquire high-quality second (or third or tenth) hand furniture. Sometimes the stuff is ready to go. Sometimes it needs some repair. For example, two years ago, we acquired a Duncan Phyfe style dining table with eight chairs for a seven hundred dollars. My wife redid the upholstery on the chairs, applied a light stain, and now we have a gorgeous dining set that will last our lifetime.