You know, our friend PeaShooter reminds me of that dog of Loony Tunes fame... you know the one that Foghorn Leghorn tormented mercilessly? Always yappin' until he runs out of leash and chokes on his collar.

http://www.nonstick.com/sounds/Barnyard_Dog/ltdg_013.wav

It's past time that ol' Foggie yanks our friend up by the tail to administer his trademark ass-whuppin' with a handy fence picket.

As said best by our hero...

http://www.nonstick.com/sounds/Foghorn_Leghorn/ltfl_046.wav

Th-Th-Th-That's all, Folks!

Oh.. PS:

http://www.nonstick.com/sounds/Foghorn_Leghorn/ltfl_050.wav

Well, as much as I despise RWA's, they already have earned their just punishment, being that they are damned to be who they are. What a sad lot...

This, from Peck's best seller, "The Road Less Travelled" ~1979:

...What are these tools, those techniques of suffering, these means of experiencing the pain of problems constructively that I call discipline? There are four:

- Delaying of Gratification

- Acceptance of Responsibility

- Dedication to Truth

- Balancing

As will be evident, these are not complex tools...almost all children are adept in their use by the age of ten. Yet presidents and kings will often forget to use them, to their own downfall. The problem lies not in the complexity of these tools, but in the will to use them. For they are tools by which pain is confronted rather than avoided, and if one seeks to avoid legitimate suffering, then one will avoid the use of these tools...

...if our lives are to be healthy and our spirits are to grow [we must be] dedicated to truth. Superficially, this should be obvious. For truth is reality. That which is false is unreal... The less clearly we see the reality of the world- the more our minds are befuddled by falsehood, misperceptions, and illusions- the less able we will be to...make wise decisions...

...many do not want to make the effort...their [worldview is] narrow and misleading/ By the end of middle age, most people have given up... They feel certain that their...Weltanschauung is correct (indeed, even sacrosanct), and they are no longer interested in new information.

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Now, since I have to go to work (I'm already late!) I will leave it to those who are more astute and articulate than I to make the connections and comments. The book may be an old chestnut, but it is still a good and relevant read, especially today. Thank you all, and thank you, M. Scott!

Do be well.

This is, after all, what LW asked. She wanted to know what to do with her feelings, NOT ask if it's OK to cheat, or anything else as may have been suggested by a few misogynistic knee-jerkers here.

Dear LW- what you can do with these feelings is the same thing everyone should do with any of their feelings:

Let the feelings visit. If they trouble you, they're only feelings.

If you feel a strong need to take action based on your feelings, you don't need to. They're only feelings.

Take the time to reflect, without judgement, on your feelings. Feelings are neither right or wrong, or good or bad. They're only feelings.

Your feelings belong only to you. Nobody (although I have met a few that swore they could) can read your mind and know your feelings unless you tell them. That is your choice to make.

There could be other issues at play here- but others have articulated them much better (and earlier!) than I could have.

We are sexual beings. We all have reptilian brains that get aroused by all kinds of things. No need to give ourselves labels because of it, or let our modes of arousal trouble us. Just know that it is there, and that it will surface periodically. And if the sexual tension becomes too much, you can always masturbate.

Good luck to you!