"Why anyone would want to withhold such recognition or deny such rights is beyond me, and that's what we should be talking about."

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Simple. They were LIED to.

The opponents of Prop 8 LIED. LIED through their teeth. Brazenly so, and with malice aforethought.

We need to talk about how they LIED. How they scared the hell out of the electorate with LIES about what Prop 9 means for ordinary folks.

Look, various religions advocate and pony up dollars for/against various political issues all the time. Fortunately, as a UU, I am proud of the issues supported by my church.

If ever there were a group of folks that should be bothered by spending their money to finance a campaign driven by LIES and distortions, it should be the LDS. After all, the average 8 year old may not know what SSM is, but they are certainly old enough to know what a LIE is, and that LYING IS WRONG.

Besides being morally reprehensible, it shows that the issue is a weak one, and unsupported by the majority. What does it say about your pet cause, if the only way you can get folks to buy into it is to LIE about it?

I have distant but vivid memories of many Sunday School lessons about what happens to people who LIE. Isn't anyone in the LDS even slightly bothered about this?

Maybe the next time the LDS church decides to support political campaigning, they should have the content vetted by a panel of 8 year olds.

The LW simply stated that there are limits to her participation in the care of her MIL. She kindly spared us the details why. Too many here are trying to judge in the absence of evidence. In the context of this letter, those details are unimportant.

Regardless of why she wishes to take such a position, this much is clear. Healthy adults need to set and enforce healthy boundaries, and as CT pointed out, this is something best considered before the shit hits the proverbial fan.

The point is, she is showing that she wants to be helpful within her limits. In a perfect world, everyone in the family pitches in with glad hearts. In the real world, sad as it might sound, sometimes the most helpful thing one can do is stay out of the way.

Regardless of one's degree of participation, dealing with Alzheimer's is neither a one-person job, nor one for amateurs. Everyone involved must educate themselves about what to realistically expect, and then plan accordingly.

Like they say in airplanes, take the oxygen first, lest you become incapacitated and unable to care for your dependant.

It is every adult's responsibility and PERFECT RIGHT to decide for themselves the extent to which they will participate.

Naturally, they will also have to take responsibility for the consequences of their choice, whatever they may be.