Letters to the Editor
sirinlover
Published Letters: 18 Editor's Choice: 2
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Ummm
[Read the article: Is Briana Waters a terrorist?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"Briana Waters wouldn't seem to fit the profile of a dangerous terrorist . . . She has long, straw-colored hair and blue-gray eyes, and always seems to hold her shoulders forward, like a girl who is shy about being tallest in her sixth-grade class"
Oh my gosh, you mean blonde-haired, blue-eyed people commit crimes?
Sorry, remind me again what profile a terrorist should fit? Maybe the author feels she should have a turban or brown skin before we start to feel nerous . . . ?
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Int'l adoption
[Read the article: Modern slaves]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Let's compare the list of countries where it's relatively quick and easy for wealthy westerners to "adopt."
Recognize any locations with chronic poverty, human rights abuses, and refugee problems? China, Nepal, Ethiopia, Haiti, Kazakhstan, Ukraine, Russia . . .
India is still relatively closed to non-resident adoption, but you can rent yourself a healthy young womb if you have the cash!
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This isn't the movies
[Read the article: I'm embarrassed to admit I met my guy online]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Luckily, here in the real world we're not obligated to "meet cute."
Work on building something real with your guy, and stop worrying about this nonsense.
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Time for help
[Read the article: I'm 21 and addicted to pot -- but I'm doing just great!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I feel compelled to add my voice to those asking LW to consider getting help.
LW, surely there's a link between your previous favorite coping mechanism, compulsive shopping, and your new fave, compulsive drug use. Neither are sustainable long-term, neither are good for you, and ultimately neither are all that effective.
There IS a problem here, and right now it just looks like pot.
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Don't want lunch now, thanks Salon!
[Read the article: Today's moral outrage: Bikini waxes for 8-year-olds]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]If our adult and young adult women are spending their time and money waxing and surgically altering their genitals to achieve the hairless clamshell "little girl" look, what exactly are our little girls supposed to be shooting for?
I'm afraid to know the answer to that.
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Curious
[Read the article: I let a homeless man move in with me and now I can't get rid of him]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Good advice abounds, hopefully the LW will take it.
I am curious about one thing, though. Why would LW "beg" her homeless friend not to stay with his own brother, who, with 40 years sober himself, might have been better equipped to handle the situation? LW says the brother was "fed up" with her homeless friend, but it's not clear to me what that actually means or why it should result in LW's begging.
Makes me wonder what the brother thinks about homeless friend's relationship with the LW . . .
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Great expectations
[Read the article: I'm a med student, but my boyfriend has just a high school education]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW -- You're a 24 year old over-achiever killing yourself at med school, but you still managed to find enough time to reject a string of 12 - 24 boyfriends who couldn't live up to your expectations. So who will be good enough?
Maybe it's not your own standards for a mate that you're really worried about. Maybe your parents' insistence on professional perfection has only slacked off long enough for them to begin pressuring you to make the perfect marriage? How are you supposed to bring your directionless, unmotivated (read LAZY) boyfriend home to meet them? How can they respect a man who isn't a doctor/lawyer/engineer, especially if you don't?
Good luck with this one, dear heart. Looks like a long road.
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Hegemony = bad
[Read the article: Where the aldermen are all women]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Diversity = good
Don't we benefit most from a diverse governing body that is informed by its varied life experiences, and that works collaboratively to reflect and serve the entire community?
Or was the point hey, if the mouth-breathing Texans can do it, anybody can!
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This just in . . .
[Read the article: Are women less willing to speak their minds?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]. . . some women won't want to be accosted by strangers on the street!
Maybe these women are simply more assertive in their refusal to spend time chatting with somebody they don't know, from a publication they've never heard of.
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Fun at the airport
[Read the article: Whiz-bang commercial: Awesome or awful?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'm enjoying imagining what fun it might be to try and get this thing through a bag check or airport security . . . .
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You are not at the center
[Read the article: We want a kid but don't think it's right to have one]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW can't have a baby until she gets the answer to an unanswerable question? Let's consult our good friend Joseph Campbell, who typically had much to say about such topics . . .
Schopenhauer suggests that just as your dreams are composed by an aspect of yourself of which your consciousness is unaware, so, too, your whole life is composed by the will within you. And just as people whom you will have met apparently by mere chance became leading agents in the structuring of your life, so, too, will you have served unknowingly as an agent, giving meaning to the lives of others. The whole thing gears together like one big symphony, with everything unconsciously structuring everything else. And Schopenhauer concludes that it is as though our lives were the features of the one great dream of a single dreamer in which all the dream characters dream, too; so that everything links to everything else, moved by the one will to life which is the universal will in nature. It’s a magnificent idea – an idea that appears in India in the mythic image of the Net of Indra, which is a net of gems, where at every crossing of one thread over another there is a gem reflecting all the other reflective gems. Everything arises in mutual relation to everything else, so you can’t blame anybody for anything.
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You can do it
[Read the article: I'm perpetuating the cycle of emotional abuse]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Honestly, this letter made me wish I could hold the LW. Quietly and tenderly. Like a Mom holds her baby before the mistakes get made, in the quiet time before the bruises and screaming start. That promise of that tiny child is still in there, and who knows. Maybe the parents they meant to be are locked away somewhere too.
For now, LW, I pray you'll show yourself the kindness they couldn't. You are someone to be protected and cherished. Build boundaries and learn to believe you deserve them. Respect what is good about anger and cultivate that hard, bright part of yourself that could be authentic power instead of just impotent rage.
Be strong. Accept only loving strength in others. Don't repeat the pattern.
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Who has two thumbs
[Read the article: I Like to Watch]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]. . . speaks limited French, and hasn't cried once today? This moi!
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Is she the type who says I love you?
[Read the article: I want more commitment from my married girlfriend]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I bet her husband could tell us!
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Getting pregnant when you're not using BC is a story?
[Read the article: It can "just happen" at just about any age]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Until you've been told by a competent medical professional (or two) that it is physically IMPOSSIBLE for you to get pregnant (not simply improbable), if you don't want to get pregnant you should use some form of birth control. And even then it's not 100%.