The Salon readers who have responded to this article so far are a joy to read - direct, to the point and thoughtful. Maybe it helps that I agree with most of them.

I've been in the work force for nearly 40 years with women and men, with co-workers with children and without. I'm a member of a family that contains stay-at-home Moms, employed Moms and no stay-at-home Dads. No one criticizes anyone else for their decisions. We all know that responsible people make the best decisions they can for their own families. It is tiresome that some, whether politicians, the media or social conservatives, profit from perpetuating a war that doesn't exist. The vast majority of people are too busy living their lives to care.

Good letter and good response by Cary. I wish I'd had this discussion when I was young and trying to figure it all out.

You know, Sherlock, it doesn't really matter if the letter is a fake and we'll never know since Salon doesn't require a background check of the letter writer. The situation described may be real enough for some readers to learn something from it and others to offer their advice as well.

BTW - are you really the fictional character "sherlock effing holmes"?

So rich women in SF are doing what rich women have always done - take care of the home and children while their workaholic husbands are obsolved of anything but conquering the world outside of the home. I'm tried, tired, tired of these articles because most people try to have a more balanced life, love their kids, and do the work necessary to keep a roof over their heads. These overachievers, in the sense that they make more than they know what to do with it, raise spoiled rotten kids and have lousy marriages based on consumption. I have no use for them.

So, you've been a lousy relationship and then marriage for like 6 years. It took you a while to figure it out/get the courage/have the common sense to realize it wasn't going to work. Now, you can't wait to start dating? What is the rush? Get your divorce, figure out what you want, then pursue new relationships. You'll have a fresh start and probably receive fewer rejections.

P.S. Ask your lawyer if there is a way to speed up the divorce process.

I bet she could find 46 women who would say that Broadsheet shouldn't give space to such a questionable survey.

Stephanie Coontz is always a breath of fresh air. She approaches issues that make some people contangerous blowhards, with seriousness, logic and humor. Thanks for including her.

No one I know 'from the left' has time to write such hatred - they're out to change the world for the better! Better describe such rantings as the sexist, homophobic non-ideas they are.