If your sister wanted your other sister and mom to know, or wanted their advice (even if only to push her away from MM for once and all ) she'd tell them herself.

I don't think she told YOU in order to get advice either - she told you so she has someone to unload/vent to when the drama gets to be too much. She wants your sympathy but, my guess is, not your advice or judgement. She is carrying around a heavy secret - she's in love with a guy that she can't speak of openly, and she is hurting people she doesn't know (the wife and kids).

When she told her secret, you listened. The 'price' for getting the info is keeping the secet. You are honor-bound to.

But in telling you, your sister has some obligations too - and that is to listen to your reactions when she tells you of the latest installment in the drama. Next time, tell her: Sis, I love you. But I don't approve of what you're doing. It's your life to do with as you want, and I love you and will be here for you when you need me. But I can't help how I feel about this. I simply can't hear any more about this terrible situation. I can't not want what's best for you - which is to be in love with a man available to you in every sense of that word - I can't not wish that woman and her kids don't have a rat for a husband and father. So I'm not the right confidante for you. Please don't tell me any more, as I feel ethically bound to do something about it when I see people being hurt.

I don't agree with Cary that your sis must have some deep hatred for her mother and her sister. She is in love with a man who is unavilable - maybe that's the appeal, to try to 'win' him away from another woman. That has everything to do with her interior landscape and nothing at all to do with women as a category. More likely she is simply selfish and confused and not thinking at all about the absent people whom her actions are hurting, which is pretty human.

Lastly - why do you want her to tell, really? If it's to get her to stop, so that she'll have a chance at an honest love/relationship - you can simply talk to her, you don't need to tell her secret and potentially despoil her reputation and relationships with your sib and mom. Is part of you outraged that she's getting away with something, that you are somehow colluding in the fate of all of the hapless cheated-on women out there?

Other people can't teach us our lessons. Your sister is learning that the hard way. Maybe you have some learning to do there, too.

hear, hear!

Fonda was giving him a good natured dose of his own medicine, and it was funny.

It seems you are cringing because you can't stand to think a 60+ woman still see herself as sexual as in her 'Barbarella' days, regardless of what *you* think.

I am sick to death of all the winking and nodding going along when a gross old goat like Tony Randall marries and knocks up a woman less than half his age (and add Trump, McCartney, Steward and Jagger to the gross old goat raiding the cradle line up)...but when an older woman dares to show she still thinks of herself as sexual, it's all ewwww, act your age!

It's time people admit that as people age they don't necessarily lose their view of themselves as sexual creatures...and they should celebrate this, not apologize for it because you can't face the ugly fact that you too, will age, become less universally sexually appealing, and then die.