Letters to the Editor
Sandra M
Published Letters: 579 Editor's Choice: 139
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Tell him now, not after the baby is born
[Read the article: I think my baby is my ex's -- and my husband doesn't know]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Lies accrue interest. If you wait until he's had the bonding experience of being with you through labor and seeing "his" son for the first time, then tell him...he may look at you as not only a liar but a deliberately evil and manipulative one - witholding the truth to trick him into supporting you through a difficult time, prioritizing your fear of being alone over his right to know whose child he is being asked to support.
Tell him now. I'm not sure why you fudged on the date of when you were with the Ex - did you not confess the affair until after you knew you were pregnant? Regardless - sit the husband down, thank him for how understanding he has been in getting past his pain at your infidelity. Tell him how much you love him. Then tell him - make it simple and to the point: I'm sorry to bring this up again. But I wasn't straight with you about the date of my infidelity. It was "x". I really believe our baby is biologically yours. I took Plan B. But if you want to do a DNA test I'll accept that.
Then be prepared to accep his decision.
The longer you put it off, the worse it will be for all of you.
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"money shot", Carol?
[Read the article: "Sexploitative" journalism?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Even the reportage on the reporting is exploitative. Not unlike the Chronicle, your attractiion to pithy puns further demeans the subject of the article. It's hard to see her plight for the horror show it must be, when everyone's using cute, jokey phraselogy to describe it.
Korean community leaders have a valid point. The title of the series was intended to titilate. "Diary of a Sex Slave" harkens to pulp fiction titles, "I was a teen-age call girl," etc. The Chronicle did not choose an empathetic stance nor a tone of moral outrage or hint at crusading for moral justice. It went with a title that promised juicy details.
It is in the headline of an article that editorial bias is most strongly reflected...and the title of this series said it all - the Chronicle, not unlike the pimps and madams running the massage parlors, thought nothing of making a buck off the sexual exploitation of an unfortunate. Or at least, didn't mind the appearance of that. Apparently, when you think you're on the side of 'right' you can use the same tactics as the side of 'wrong'. It's just business.
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How can a religion that demands chastity of its women...
[Read the article: Sex and suicide attacks]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]..promise sex as a heavenly reward?
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The picture isn't really the issue here..
[Read the article: The return of the downcast pregnant lady]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]..the story is, and its implication that women who delay having children for silly reasons like, oh, pursuing a career, are really endangering a whole new generation with their selfish choices.
I wonder why the research didn't mention the recent study in France that found, definitively, that a man's fertility appears to decline after the age of 40, in much the same way that a woman's ability to conceive fades after 35.
Perhaps it is the ancient sperm being visited on the hapless daughters that is causing lower fertility, and not older moms/eggs. Or, gasp, both! Maybe women and men have *equal* responsibility..instead of women bearing the sole brunt of any bad news related to substandard children growing into compromised adults.
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Try telling Anthony, King, Ghandi..
[Read the article: The knife life]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]that you can't subvert what you don't belong to.
Kucynski is a giant, self-obsessed ass. She should read Journey to the Ants, The Beak of the Finch, anything by Ford or Didion or Roth. A million bucks says, she hasn't, which is why she doesn't know what the fuck she talks about when she talks about confidence, inner beauty, outer beauty, blah fucking blah.
And I ressent the misuse of pronous and nouns. she isn't talking about people and men obsessed with plastic surgery. She is talking about women. Very very very fucked up women.
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The way to prevent eating disorders...
[Read the article: "Student Bodies," student selves]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]...is to take away the incentives of approval and attention.
I was anorexic in college. There wasn't much disincentive to stop - girls envied me, guys liked how thin I was. I got a lot of positive attention. Even the negative attention was better than no attention at all.
The best disincentive is to have high profile students - the guys everyone wants to date, the girls everyone wants to be - dis anorexia as the tool of a needy. obsessive, out-of-control, emotionally immature person. Then tout the 'right' way to be thin - the elimination of 'bad' calories (sugar, highly processed white flour, saturated fat), eating healthily, exercising regularly.
Girls do it because it *works* - they get thin, they get approval, they get drama, they get attention. You have to take these incentives away.
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That...
[Read the article: The Democrats' best slogan: "Bush lost the war"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]f'n ROCKED.
Time for Democrats to get some teeth and tear into some Republican ass.