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Sandra M

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Thursday, October 19, 2006 05:08 PM
Original article: To bleed, or not to bleed?

Glorifying periods as a touchstone of womanhood is like glorifying urination as a touchstone of being human.

If they could invent a pill that reduced or eliminated our need to urinate, or put it on a predictable schedule, who would object on the basis that it we were getting too far removed from our basic humanity? Periods are an elimination function, like urinating and defacating - the body getting rid of waste products. There is no need to mythologize periods. Stopping them should be a decision based on safety and convenience, not some new agey wiccan mother earthy female spirity weirdness. It's blood. Period. (ha).

Monday, October 23, 2006 04:10 PM

Maybe she did, maybe she didn't...

Personally, I thnk HC had a little work done right before she ran for Senator. A brow lift or eye lift or something small like that - she was looking remarkably 'refreshed' around then, and had that strange round-eyed look that Michael Douglas, Demi Moore, Sharon Stone and Clint Eastwood all had immediately post-surgery. CEOs do it all the time - I know of two, verifiably and personally. When you're in the public eye, and/or having your face projected onto 20 foot high video walls or movie screens, I suppose natural to want to look your best. For some, this means smoother. It's really no big deal - I'm sure most of them think of it as a business decision akin to what style of clothes to wear or what kind of car to drive - whatever projects the image they want to project for their careers.

The issue here isn't did she or did she not have plastic surgery...but the whole smarmy adolescent 'why would Bill marry her?' This presumes that how attractive other men find your wife should be the sole criteria on which to select a partner. Are men really this insecure that they so desire to provoke envy among their peers they are willing to commit themslves for life to a woman whose looks fir the bill, regardless of how interesting or otrherwise compatible she is with his goals, values and self? Wow. Sad.

Someone famous (I can't remember now, but it made headlines) made the same remark about Prince Charles with Camilla Bowles, saying he could have 'anyone he wanted', why pick a woman with a 'face like a horse' . I guess that guy didn't take a real close look at Charlie, whose wealth and privelege are not enough to make me not notice that he is homely, homely, homely.

What IS it with men wondering aloud why some rich/powerful/famous males actually want, you know, partners and not just arm candy? I can see why Bill was attracted to Hillary - he wanted to be accepted by the intelligentsia. Hillary was an intellectual ball of fire, a mover and a shaker. Her valedictory speech drew a standing ovation. She was and is a high wattage braniac, and that turns Bill on. What's to question?

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Monday, October 23, 2006 04:21 PM
Original article: The ones who weren't

It's difficult to figure out what if anything the author has learned...

While married she has an abortion, if not against her will than against her inclinations. She fights tooth and nail for each child they bring into the world, and admits to sort of knowing her husband is never really fully 'partnered' with her on the kid thing.

Then she meets Don, and they share a tepid and somewhat ambiguous love. She gets pregnant and is ecstatic, and he...isn't. And she plans to abort again! I read this and did a mental double take. I simply don't understand the lack of thinking -this making of important decisions based primarily on how the man feels, and what he wants in the relationship.

It is beyond me why she didn't decide to break up with him and plan to have the baby she so obviously wanted to have. The pregnancy revealed a fault line in their relationshilp - a clear misalignment of values and direction. She should have followed her joy. Instead, she followed, once again, the path of least resistance for keeping the guy.

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