I feel infuriated I want her to share the narrative of her life, I feel this is a cut to my heart, I don't want to do a dossier..

Is the problem, maybe, that you are making what is essentially HER story all about YOU?

Maybe you don't mean to...but maybe this is, in fact, what you regularly do - take over her story and make it about you. Maybe she's protecting this story from that outcome. Maybe she feels you, in your 'tell me tell me tell me because *I* need to know' way that you just won't understand how and why the relationship was important to her.

Maybe her boyfriend belongs to some political, socio-economic, or other identifying group you've derided in the past. Maybe the boyfriend belongs to some group SHE has derided in the past - love can be strange. Maybe the relationship was complicated and your friend simply doesn't want to go through the arduous process of trying to make you see and understand it the way she saw and understood it - maybe the guy was married, with kids. There are so many reasons that have nothing to do with you why she might not want to share the details.

Maybe by not sharing the story of this man she is not cutting your heart, as you feel, but simply protecting her own.

I wouldn't take Cary's approach if I were you - that approach is still all about you, which I think may be the issue here (and please don't take that to heart, or get angry or upset; it's not meant in a judgmental or mean-spirited way; it may just be your way of trying to relate and empathize with people and there's nothing wrong per se about that, it just isn't working in this case with this friend).

Instead, you might want to try communicating more along the lines of how SHE feels: I am sorry for pushing so hard to hear about your relationship. It's clearly something you want to keep private, and I haven't been respecting that. Let me just say that I hope the relationship was a good experience for you and left you happier and wiser after than before, and I promise not to badger you anymore about it. And that if I've somehow not been the friend I should, if I've made you uncomfortable with sharing the intimate details of your life, I hope you trust me enough to tell me what I need to know in order to be a better friend to you.

Say this cheerfully, not dramatically. No making it about you by getting choked up at the end: If (sniff)..I...haven't (sniff) been the friend..(gasp) that I should... If YOU have created some problem that makes her reticent about telling you about this relationship and/or other things, you've now opened the door for her to discuss it. But maybe she'll just smile and nod and remain reticent, becaus the relationship and her reticent about it are about her, not you.

Your friend went through something. You didn't. She didn't take you along on the journey. She didn't even write. That doesn't mean she doesn't love you. It just means it's about her, not you. Try to accept that you do not know everything about your friends, nor are you entitled to. Working hard to remain a good friend means, sometimes, accepting them on their terms as well as, or even instead of, your own.

The employment of underage models is less a sexual exploitation issue (in that sense, Britney 'exploited them' more than the fashion industry ever could) than an issue of the fashion industry finding a way to send too-thin women down the run ways to better sell their clothes. A 15-year-old can more naturally achieve a super-low weight because of her age, thus, the fashion industry can use all 15-year-olds to model their clothes and then innocently claim that the bodies in the clothes are not the result of impossible thin standards for women. The fact that the standard weight of a 15 year old would be almost impossible to achieve for most grown women, and that the use of a 15-year-old model is, really, not-so-subtly promulgating the idea that her body is the ideal or 'model' that anyone wanting to wear the clothes should follow, is ignored or overlooked.

Parading young girls down the runway as adult women is as or more exploitative of adult women as it is of girls. It's time for the make-up and fashion industries to stop representing the skin and bodies of adolescents as grown women; it's time to stop marketing the notion to women that the skin and bodies of adolescents are achievable goals if you only you would buy X.