I could not care less what More magazine says about a woman's looks post-40, any more than I care what Cosmopolitan says about a woman's looks at age 20. Those magazines are selling one thing - insecurity. They have one goal - to get you to buy into the notion that you aren't good enough as you are, and that the solution to your problems lies within the advertisements in their pages. It's not truth, it's commerce.

Williams says "It's humbling to try to thrive in a culture that's all too eager to remind us that we've still got it, that we're just fine for our age. We used to just be women. Now we're a subcategory."

That is quite possibly the stupidest thing I have ever heard a woman who claims to be strong and smart say - and at least pretend to believea. What subcategory is that? The subcategory that is running for president? The subcategory that led the nations of England, India and Pakistan?

I suppose if you are going to measure your entire life by the relevancy of Victoria Secret Underwear models, then yes, getting older represents a horrible failure to stay relevant. The funny thing is, I know very few men who obsess over women (or themselves) aging. Maybe because they don't tend to read so many glossy "you look great...FOR YOUR AGE" magazine articles. Ms. Williams should try it.

Charlotte Allen attacks her own gender with specious reasoning and spurious causality in an effort to appear more attractive to men.

LW - you seem very ambivalent, but mostly because of what others will think. You seem caught between the proverbial rock and hard place: on the one side, you want to do it because of what all those mean people from your youth, men and media think about small breasts...on the other side, you don't want to do it because you are afraid of being judged shallow, stupid, weak, whatever. It seems senseless to ask you to take a page from your boyfriend's book and love yourself as you are, so I guess the best thing to do is pick a scenario:

a. mutilate yourself to get even with men and the media, and walk around with big greats that get the attention of the people you resent for making you mutilate yourself..and maybe have to have multiple surgeries, and definitely have loss of sensitivity and scars

b. stay as you are, resent men and the media for preferring big breasts, walk around with small breasts getting attention only form people who like small breasts - and not have scars, need for follow-up surgery, or loss of sensitivity.

You seem to be looking for reassurance that people won't judge you harshly for making this decision. But in your world, according to you anyway, they are already judging you harshly for having small breasts. Who cares why they are judging you? Neither judgment is more noble than the other. Get the fake breasts and be glad that when you are being judged, you now know, as you didn't with small breasts, that your breasts don't define you.