Letters to the Editor
Amerigo
Published Letters: 955 Editor's Choice: 60
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@brightstar65
[Read the article: My wife keeps cheating but we have two kids. Should I leave her?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Amerigo-- Thanks, but I'll pass on the wife bit if the only choice is a fat Philipino who will pin me into a sexless marriage.
I said the husband is fat like a beached whale, the wife is a slender little woman like a sandpiper. Whether any marriage turns out to be sexless or not in the long run depends on the individuals concerned. My comment about the Pope was a joke!
Players are the only ones who understand the game is utterly rigged against men. They are the only SANE ones.
I think this is only partly true. Players I take to be those who just manipulate women for sexual purposes and then cruelly abandon them and any children that occur. Dawkins (The Selfish Gene, Ch. 9 Battle or the Sexes p. 146) describes this strategy as: "Each individual wants as many surviving children as possible. The less he or she is obliged to invest in any one of those children, the more children he or she can have. The obvious way to achieve this desirable state of affairs is to induce your sexual partner to invest more than his or her fair share of resources in each child, leaving you free to have children with other partners..."
Sounds pretty ghetto, doesn't it?
I think that these days you can have serial relationships throughout the life cycle by being nice and by charming women rather than just using them. Contraception makes sexual pleasure without conception fairly easy.
The "player" strategy seems to me to be less potentially successul if it is hiding a basic hatred of women, because it seems to me that having genuine affection for and compassion for women will be much more effective in seducing them.
In the long run they are our companions as we run our parellel courses through life in one particular place and period of time,and I think that in the end, when we are too old for sex, we would like to think that we have contributed to each other's overall happiness.
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Been there, done that...
[Read the article: My mother's dying words were, "You'll never be good enough"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The workplace is very difficult for bright young people, because they come in all idealistic and actually believe the stuff that is written in mission statements, etc. They believe that it is all about serving the stakeholders, shareholders, etc.
Well, it ain't.
Most people are slackers, especially the ones who try to give the impression they are working their asses of. Whom you are screwing and to whom you are related is also very important. (The fact that there are written policies saying that this is not so just shows how important it really is to hide the basic facts of life from junior employees.)
The most important facet of corporate success is that you must think about how to make other people look good, especially your bosses. This can be difficult, especially when you remember how they got to be bosses. (Think how White House aides must bitch when they get home to their spouses. "Honey, I'm going to jail for that bastard, but don't worry, he will sign off on my pardon")
I once wrote a synopsis of a report on a notable achievement of a work team of which I was a co-leader. The synopsis won the annual top award for excellence in the largest government agency in my state.
The original report, which I had also written, was used by my boss as the basis (cough)for a Ph.D. thesis that helped him get promotion to a highly paid sinecure. As he was credited orginally as co-author, he could do this, and he did actually chip in a corporate adjective or two.
As a result of his elevation to the pantheon of the state capital, I was promoted to his job. Although that organization no longer exists, I remain personal friends with the CEO to whom I reported after my promotion.
I have since rejoined the ranks of the slackers, but for more money than before and no one I work with now knows about my secret history of awards and leadership positions.
You, LW, will get promoted soon because too many people will be fed up with you, but will the same pattern repeat itself at the next level? I think it might, if you are still sucking up to dear old mom.
You won't want to hear this, but if I was you, I would get out of the corporate world and run your own concern.