Letters to the Editor
soisam
Published Letters: 17
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Delinquent Dad
[Read the article: My dad left when I was 7 -- now he wants back in my life]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]He is thinking about divorcing his 70 year old wife and you want him back in your life?
First he deserted you and now he is thinking about deserting his elderly wife (and what is her health I wonder?)so it would seem wise to me for you to be cynical. My advise would be to keep him at arm's length for a while. If he has really changed he will be willing to go slowly and work to gain your trust. If not, he will disappear again when he feels that his needs are not being met. This may be a guy whose life has always been about his needs. You deserve to find that out before you commit your heart to building a new relationship with your long absent father.
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Bringing home baby
[Read the article: Mommie fearest]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Good Grief! Is this what happens when women are allowed to recoperate in a hospital for only two days instead of a respectable four or five days? If you have postpartum depression--which used to be unlikely-- you'll get help. Otherwise,you can confidently look forward to a happy first few months bonding with your baby. Babies sleep a lot. You should have time to take care of yourself as well as your newborn.
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Girl shortage in China
[Read the article: More on those lonely Chinese bachelors]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I have always thought that this is a problem that will eventually solve itself. When girls are scarce, they will become a very valued commodity. Furthermore, if parents have only one child each it seems logical that daughters will be raised to take care of their parents as they age as well as sons. I think it is ultimately most insulting to women to think that they would not assume that responsibility. If married couples are struggling to care for both sets of parents the pressure will be put on society for financial relief.
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Don't hate, medicate.
[Read the article: I hate my cat!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Your cat probably needs an anti-depressant. Ours takes one Chomipramine every day and it has made a world of difference in her behavior. We never forget her pill because she knows when she needs her medication and reminds us. If you vet hasn't suggested medication, get another vet!
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Fade to Black
[Read the article: I Like to Watch]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]So the actor who was a bit player until the final episode is the one who knew the intended ending all along?
I think the ending was perfect. Tony may go to jail or he may get whacked and until then he and his family will muddle on living their ethically challenged lives. It's just that we, the viewers aren't going to be there to witness it all. Wasn't something to that effect your original take on the ending?
Considering all of the Italian food consumed in this series if Tony and his family were going to get whacked in a restaurant, it should have been over a plate a spaghetti, not a basket of onion rings. And never in a soda joint with the boy scouts and God and country and all looking on. Would't that be an uncharacteristic moral judgment on the Sopranos? In any case, why would any respectable hit man whack them there instead of catching them in the dark as they exited the building?
Soisom
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Juno
[Read the article: Oops, she did it again]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Sorry Joan,
I usually agree with you, but this time I think you've misread the Flanagan article and the reader response to it. Many women, including very liberal liberals like me, have been waiting for someone in the print media to make the case that Flanagan has made.
I have not seen the movie--a serious flaw, I agree; however, I absolutely cringe every time I see the trailers for Juno--Chirpy,very pregnant girl walking down the school hall, boyfriend ruefully admitting he cannot grow a moustache. "Right on" or some such rot. Flanagan is right. Juno is a fairy tale. In real life one of the parents would have decided they should adopt the baby, or Juno, on seeing her baby's fingernails, would have decided she couldn't give her baby up after all.
In contrast, I am of the generation written about in the book The Girls Who Went Away. All of us who went to high school before the pill knew those girls-- the ones who got pregnant and went away to "boarding school" in mid-semester. The truth of their condition was spoken of in hushed tones in the hallways and usually we never saw them in school again. No sane person wants to return to that era. Three cheers for the fictional Juno and her resiliency and the parents and culture that support her. At the same time, all of us today know of the parents searching for children they gave away and adopted children searching for their parents. It seems that the Moses in the bulrushes theory does not work as well in the long run.
I'm not faulting the fictional Juno for not understanding that at 16 but I also am not going to fault Flanagan for pointing out that at the very least life is considerably messier than the movie Juno suggests that it is.
Pat
San Jose, CA