Add me to the list of "He doesn't deserve you, dump him so he can find someone better."

The ungrateful dreamer who's partnered with the steady faithful.

This is a story that's as old as time and the roles have been played by either gender and switched around.

Spot on - you're a narcissist, and expect him to ohh and fawn over your everything you do and understand everything you understand about your art.

But has it occurred to you - if he were to do exactly that - you wouldn't become more interested in him. You would actually LOSE interest, because he would become less and less challenging. You would become bored of him because there's nothing wanting.

Go ahead and shack up with a bad boy, but I guarantee you that when the seed hits the egg, bad boy ain't gonna be around for you. He'll drive away in his bad boy motorcycle, never to be found again. Think that's romantic, raising bad boy's child on your own? That's just romance novel material, sorry. You're gonna wish that you were with Mr Steady when that happens.

You already made up your mind. You don't like him anymore. So GTFO and stop wasting his time when he could be with someone who he really should be with, and not you.

And don't forget to write back and let us know the life of a starving artist.

He has too much time on his hands. His boss is not assigning him enough work and imposing tight enough deadlines. If this was an old-school cheap and stingy Chinese boss, this behavior would be shut down, and fast.

When you are so busy that you're doing overtime just to keep up, there is no farking TIME to make jokes. Just...no TIME! The paperwork's piling up and all must be done by this time, on this day or say hello to a negative performance review.

Yeah this is fairly old news.

What woman in her right mind would stay behind slaving away with their brothers, fathers and cousins in the fields? There's the whole world out there, and by golly they'll go get it, bid their male counterparts goodbye.

It's amazing that the men don't get the hint and do likewise, but then again they may be bound to the land by any number of factors. And thus we have the sheer shortage of women. The best the fellows can hope for it maybe a one night stand, but that's still better than nothing.

It'll be many months - it not years - before they get to see any hint of another female, so might as well make the most of it while they can.

Don't be knocking the poster there. Here's what's already happening:

Plenty of fellas I know here in the West (frustrated, lonely, etc)...simply couldn't find a girlfriend. Speed dating? Tried that. Meeting women through work and friends? Not working either. Engaging in as many activities as they can (ballroom dancing, cooking classes, pottery) - no dice. So what do they do?

They head to China. Yes they get their "needs" fulfilled and in spades, if only for that 3 weeks of vacation. But boy are they fulfilled, coming back with ear-to-ear smiles. And they can't wait to go back.

Does this equalize things in the end? Does it benefit women as a whole ultimately? Probably not, but if there truly is a huge surplus of men vs women, then this is an example of what can happen.

The women can be more choosy and exercise more power her choices. Men are a dime a dozen, so the women have the upper hand.

Those of you who brand us Chinese are barbaric, well let me just say that it's very clear that you don't simply don't understand us.

Then you see stuff like this on Salon and you think we're all demons with yellow skin. Open your eyes and see crimes for what they are, and culture for what it is.

I have family members who did the whole "mail-order" bride thing.

One cousin married a girl from China and when he did that, he took in the girl's mother, father and little brother together as part of the package. Today the husband and wife work together in managing the family restaurant. They're doing well.

He took her away from a life on the farm, and into the Western world and into a life of doing restaurant stuff. Still very hard work and long hours but it beats farm work any day of the week.

Look at what he gave her, and her family. There's no way you can criminalize him for that.

It's true, Salon's going downhill the more and more we're seeing these angry vapid readers who jump on any opportunity to bash each other over every little thing.

About the dress trashing - I'm with the "donaters" here - give the dress away because there will be women who want their special day and simply can't afford it the way you Cinderellas can.

Unless you feel you have to destroy the dress first, then donate what's left of it to charity.

Nobody hands down the dress to daughters these days. Who wants to wear the dress mommy wore several decades ago? It'll be so out of style that it's not funny, not to mention humiliating for the girl when her friends find out where it came from. Even still, mommy took the time to preserve that dress and keep it in good condition - with good reasons.

Why aren't we seeing those very same reasons today?