...You'd still do your due diligence and get tests done would you not?

I don't think this is even a question of pro-choice or pro-life or whatever the emotionally-charge political term is these days.

This is a question of seeing the results, knowing that they are not in your favor of having a healthy child born. I can already hear the thundering of hooves demanding me to define "healthy".

Come on, you know what I mean. Ask any expectant mother-to-be and she'll tell you. Just a healthy baby. Whether black or white, whether handsome or otherwise.

I find it a little hard to believe a pro-choicer would favor the birth of a Down's syndrome baby against all odds, or say a baby with any other serious birth defect. Sure we can say "but he might be the next Mozart" or "she might be the next Carly Fiorina" but let's be realistic here.

They're uncomfortable the very moment you opened your mouth about the whole Chinese thing, when prior to that everything was hunky-dory.

It's racism, pure and simple. They don't want to associate their daughter with slanty-eyed buck-toothed yellow skinned people who only know how to kung-fu, wear fisherman hats, and speak bad English. That would go against their purity.

To think she would have even the slightest relation to Bruce Lee? Are you crazy?

Yup, if the genders were reversed, we would be all pointing and laughing at the man.

Soon as it's as woman who's been "wronged" suddenly we're all jumping to her defense.

Sorta brings back the joke of the wife being penetrated from behind, then suddenly gets slapped by the hubby "That's for not turning around and CHECKING who it was."

Come on people:

- Would you mistaken your hubby's brother for him?

- Or his dad?

- Or his cousin?

I call BS on her. HOW can you NOT notice? Sexual technique? Not even penis size?

Honey you probably had the hots for him, got caught with your hand in the cookie jar, and are now crying foul for getting caught.

- They are too poor to afford birth control which is understandable.

- The preference is for them not to get pregnant as they are poor and only in their teens which sounds about right.

- Something about we wanting them to keep their virginity? OK that's old-school thinking but the point has been made.

Easy solution.

Educate on....*drum roll*....

Hand jobs, Blow Jobs!

That'll take care of it.

First of all, you two are 20, but let's not start belittling your age because that's what ignorant old people do, who just don't understand.

It could be because he'd be exposing vulnerability to you if he were to say those magic words. Also many men's guides out there say - the moment he were to say those litle words - is the moment the woman actually starts to *lose* interest.

These "players handbooks" state very specifically for a man NEVER to use those words unless he absolutely, positively, must. Because the more she hears them, the less words actually mean.

Think back to the mushy guy who always buys flowers for his gal, only to have her ditch him because he's become "too nice", "too predictable", so on and so forth, then goes after the Bad Boy who impregnates her on a regular basis. Thank goodness for the morning-after pill. Meanwhile Mushy good-guy dies of heartbreak, and rises from the ashes as the next Bad boy.

Bottom line. There are reasons why he's not telling you what you want to hear.

I can't believe the truth ain't cut and dry to so many of you people.

You guys can't remember how you used to love playing "house" or playing "dress up? That's what little girls DO when they play. They don't just weave each other's hair or play pattie-cake-pattie-cake-baker's-man.

So they raid mommy's makeup drawer, try on this shade or that shade of lipstick, but have no idea how to apply it properly and all those other sorts of techniques. So they end up looking like little clowns with crazy lipstick and painted faces.

Naw it's harmless. No different today than it was 30 years ago, same shatte different pile.

If you're gonna buy 'em makeup, go for gold, not these cheap Revlon mockups. Kids know and see the difference between Barbie stuff and the REAL stuff that mom wears.

So we have couples who get to sleep with other couples with no repercussions; everyone knows what everyone else is up to, and it's fine.

So I gotta question here: If Couple A's 55 year-old male fancies Couble B's 20 year old, is that cool? Is it ok if he rolls in the hay with her(assuming she thinks he's kinda cute and agrees)?

What about the kids? Is it ok if Couple C's kids "play doctor" with Couple D and Couple E's kids? That all cool? Hey if momma and daddy are doing it with "Auntie" and "Uncle"...

So the mantra is communicate, communicate, communicate...which is fantastic...but what about all these other possibilities?

Come on men will be men. The old foxes are gonna lust after some young blood - and within this whole polygamy, that's all good right? Especially as it's within the "family" and technically speaking, it's not incest.

Anybody out there?

Come on just answer the question.

Couple A's 55-year old husband lusts after Couble B's nubile 20-year old daughter.

Is that OK within this whole polygamy? Come on you can't tell me it hasn't happened. What about the children rolling in the hay with the other kids? Or mixing it up some more with the parents and kids? Should be OK right?

Come on answer the question(s).