This woman had only one of the three implanted embryos take. And there was a chance the aborted fetus could have been her own. She rushed to abort early to avoid the higher risks of waiting until the amniotic dna test could be done.

The story is devastating and I would not judge this woman. A DNA test would open her up to a custody battle from the biological parents after carrying the baby to term. There is no way anyone should judge this woman.

What a travesty.

Don't marry before the age of 25. Or maybe 30.

Right out of college is soooo young. I mean, check out the responses to yesterday's SYA letter.

Neither of you have properly separated from your parents. Moving to a new city will speed the process, but for the holidays and homecomings, that failure to separate is going to cause of alot of friction. I mean, this may be lost on you-- you won't even comprehend what I am talking about until you actually do differentiate yourself from your parents and see what I mean in hindsight. It didn't happen for me until I was about 28 or so, even though I was in denial about it from age 18 onward.

The problem is, you won't be differentiating to your own independent identity-- you will be going from enmeshed with your parents to being simultaneously enmeshed with your husband who is still enmeshed with his parents.

You should really define yourself before you get married.

As for not liking his parents-- honey, you marry the whole extended family of your beloved. For your whole life, till death do you part. And if you have children, you will be tied to your husband's even longer. Because then you shall be joined by blood and even a divorce won't extract you from their presence and influence in your life.

And they will have expectations for your grandchildren-- you better get set with your husband before you get married exactly whose expectations are going to be met when it comes to the children. Your parents--- or--his parents-- or screw all the parents and their heartfelt dreams and religious convictions find a way that makes you both happy even if it pisses everyone else off.

Who is going to stand up to who when the forces of tradition come to shove? Will your husband run interference when his Dad tries to control how you raise your kids and will you run interference when your Mom does something equally offensive to his sensibilities? Will you stand up for each other and be unified against these outside forces or will you each take up the flag of your respective forebears and duke it out in your home?

Get clear on these questions and who you are apart from each of your parents-- or the best you and your fiancee can hope for is a few years of a starter/practice marriage.

In the last 25 or so years since "the Burning Bed" film brought domestic violence issues into the public limelight, not a whit has changed about human behavior.

Your letter reminded me (of what little I remember) of that novella, Death in Venice, by Thomas Mann.

What a weird little story. I couldn't relate to the protagnist, and I can't relate to you.

You seem very shallow. Maybe your PTSD/MST issues keep you from going to deep, I don't know.

I hope that you can come to terms with your life and your limitations and try to make a life that has purpose and meaning. That is everyone's challenge, every day.

I thought that Bill was sort of the head priest of his own church since the beginning of season one. I mean, the backyard poolside baptism of Teensy and Margine, the ceremony where he made his son a priesthood holder, the baptism of the dead of Margene's mother...

It just seemed that he was always running his own little backyard compound so to have this epiphany communion ceremony at the end was a little anticlimatic. Of course, it could have just been a conceit to get everyone together for the startling introduction of Nikki's daughter, who seems positively lovely, by the way.

I would love for Nikki to break free and work out some deal with the D.A. that paves the road to freedom and maybe romance for her. I thought that was a possibility prior to the introduction of her daughter-- but I think that if there is a 4th season, the challenge will be how to free her daughter from entry into the joy book. I think that Bill will forgive her and take her back into the fold.

I just loved Margene's sell-out performance on QVC. Brilliant!

I would like to know what becomes of Teensy. Everyone ignores her-- even when she gets caught distributing skin rags to the neighbor boys. Wayne gets more lines than Teensy. She reminds me of the deranged little sister in World According to Garp. She's gonna get someone... one day.

I was very very disappointed at the complete derailing of Sarah this season. The miscarraige was gripping but then she completely unraveled. I was hoping she would have a future of her own making but clearly now she won't-- she may have just been added to the joy book given the life mate she's chosen for herself.

Really the pinnacle of the birthing experience is that lady who filmed herself giving birth to her fifth child at home on her bed, with no one attending to her and virtually no mess AND she had an orgasm as the baby crowned.

Have you seen that video online? What would-be mother could hold a candle to that?