You would think that simply rinsing out the condoms would satisfy whatever additional precautionary needs a man felt he needed to take to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. I would not begrudge a man who was not ready to become a parent taking extra precautions. It is unfortunate that he wouldn't trust his girlfriend enough to believe she wouldn't attempt to impregate herself on the sly with sperm from a used condom, but many people begin a sexual relationship with someone they don't yet fully trust. And I could buy someone with OCD washing out the condoms.

But hot sauce and OCD? Not buying it.

The hot sauce adds another layer of maliciousness. Because, in theory, it wouldn't just kill the sperm, it would punish the sly woman who inseminated herself by making her insides burn.

It is like putting Exlax in someones cookies. Delicious and malicious.

I have never heard of the hot sauce thing. But I don't think that the level of suspicion, that a man would fear that a woman would impregnate herself secretly, is beyond the pale.

If you decide to stay with this guy, make sure you are on the same page when it comes to having kids (or not) in the future. Once your married and TRYING to get pregnant, you really don't want a husband who will sabotage your efforts.

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You don't mention the time period in which you completed your grad work, but if it was anytime in the last 20 years, you would have been fully funded at any of those schools you mention--if you were in a Ph.D. program. Likely, you received an M.A., J.D., or something other non-Ph.D. degree. Professional degrees are mostly unfunded because they offer real earning opportunities, and many grad programs subsidize their Ph.D. funding by making untalented M.A.s pay through the nose for a vanity degree.

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The breadth of your arrogance is only matched by the depth of your misinformation. But I think you truly believe what you are saying. What rarefied air you must breath.

Excuse me, breathe.

My grinning 13 month old did something similar to arrest my sobbing the morning our local news broke the story of the 3407 Crash. He was waiting for me to turn on Caillou, I think.

Karl Rove is consciously dishonest.

It was body bags.

Americans should be exposed to the sober realities of wars fought overseas. The press should never have been censored in the first place.

Okay-- point taken if you are encouraging the letter writer to seek out a fully funded PhD program that won't put him into further debt, and avoid those costly, underfunded or unfunded programs which are apparently full of -- your words--"untalented vanity degree" seekers.

If the LW fails to secure admission to a fully funded program, by all means he should realize that he is one of the "untalented" and understand that if he takes out additional loan money to pursue a "vanity degree," he will foolishly be subsidizing the truly talented and deserving PhD students as they inch closer toward a career that he will be forever precluded from.

My original point was and remains, if the letter writer (like most educated people who are smart but not necessarily among the elitist of the chosen elite), turns out to be one of these untalented vanity degree seekers, he should try to work his way through the program rather than take on additional student loan debt. And even if he is accepted into a funded program, he should take pains to complete his work in a timely manner and keep his cost of living down to avoid additional debt. Perhaps you will acknowledge that even a $25K living stipend in most large cities will barely put a person at the poverty line.

(1) When I am nursing, whatever sensuality it generates is strictly in the realm of the mother-infant bond. Having a man do this to fulfill some sort of fetish on his part would cross the line for me. But I wouldn't deny a starving adult or child the opportunity to nurse if faced with that dilemma.

(2) Okay, I resent this thought that somehow those of us lactating women who don't want to spill milk on the sheets are not quite as in tune with our womanhood as the author. Women wear nursing bras and pads to bed to catch the leaks to save time spent washing the sheets. It would be more comfortable to sleep braless but milk is milk and when it spills it eventually dries and it stinks like old sour milk would!

(3) Disposable breast pads can catch the geyser eruptions and save a blouse or too. People do forget. I wound up waiting for AAA without a backup set of breast pads and by the time the tow truck arrived, I was fairly well saturated. Embarrasing. If I were going on a date I would certainly have a supply of breast pads in my purse to avoid such scenarios.

Now lead.

To acknowledge that Limbaugh's words are incendiary and ugly is an important first step.

Now the GOP must distance itself from its fringe lunatic elements before Limbaugh starts calling liberals "cockroaches" as the ugly incendiary Hutu radio announcers in Rwanda used to call the dispossessed Tutsis.

We cannot discredit hate talk radio and television as merely entertaining when they start beating the drum of sedition.