I can't imagine how powerless she feels when her husband does this and the courts uphold it.

I so am glad I don't live in Saudi Arabia under Sharia law. I don't think there is anything to be done for this child unless her mother escapes to a more enlightened country. But I sure there are ties binding her there just like the ties that bind the american polygamist mormons to their compounds.

Enjoy your secret love affair and your well-paying job while they last.

I am sure it makes the job much more exciting and we do what we have to to get through the workday.

Make sure your paramour isn't married though. You want to have something real, not something seedy.

Wanting to be spanked is nothing shocking, but you may want to explore why you want to be dominated before you even begin to try vanilla intercourse (you know, the kind that carries all the risks of STD and unplanned pregnancy).

Anyhow, I think the LW wants to be spanked because she is ashamed of her sexual urges and she wants to be punished for them. And she wants to be dominated because then she can be absolved of her personal responsibility for enjoying or acting upon her sexual urges.

Anyhow. Last year some idiot submissive died after finding some idiot dom on the internet who dressed the submissive in latex and tied him up in bedroom closet for a weekend and left him there. Then the dom killed himself over it. Don't these people have any purpose to their lives? Are their lives that empty that they can waste a weekend tied up in some stranger's closet?

So, the advice that the virgin should find her D/S community on the internet is kind of stupid if you ask me. People are really F-d up in ways that are hardly shocking-- just mostly sad.

My advice to the LW is she should purchase a copy of the Story of O and use the choice scenes to fuel masturbatory fantasies until she can find a nice normal guy who will treat her beautifully and when she does find him, hopefully she can submit to an idea of sex that feels pleasurable, loving and pain-free.

If she is holding out for family life, note is a lot of pain in pregancy and childbirth and even nursing that should more than exceed any fantasies of being whipped and tortured, ironically enough.

What exactly is the problem? This seems to be a fantasy drama existing entirely in the LW's mind. The awkward lunch with nothing to say is a clear indication of how a relationship between the LW and the man on the train would go.

She should leave her live-in lover since she is apparently not that into him. But as for the train man?

Cest la vie. That ship has sailed.

I had to skip the middle section of this essay and skim ahead just to see if she did eventually quit her bratty whining, get a clue and find a job of her own. unfortunately, the enormous amount of self-importance she attributed to herself upon becoming a wage earning schmoe like the rest of us was just as nauseating as the part where she threw plates and wanted to run away from her blue collar husband for not financially supporting her fantasy freelance writing career and desire to be a stay-at-home mom.

Dimwit.

This poor girl. If the nanny was so attentive and loving, why does it seem the girl was raised by wolves?

I think the LW probably exaggerates. Yes, teenagers can be very clueless, clumsy and dippy. More so if no one has taught them how to be self-sufficient. I am sure whatever life skills the LW believes she learned by osmosis or intuiton were actually taught to her by someone loving and patient.

If the LW is more than an immature gold-digger in her relationship, she might find some compassion for this lost soul and try to befriend her, and mentor her. But I think that is probably unlikely. As it is, she is wondering about the possibility of marrying this 16 year old off. Bronte sisters indeed!

Perhaps the best outcome is for the nanny to become a permanent guardian or adopt the girl (with full financial support from this poor excuse of a father). Four years of once a week dinners with her father and his girlfriend after being traumatically abandoned by her mother in a foreign country?

Such a special family.

I am a democrat and I agree that his prior dishonesty in tax reporting should disqualify him for the position of Treasury Secretary.

Mistakes are mistakes, but I hate hypocrisy first and foremost.